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writes: Hello,My question is about sex. As I am a virgin female aged 20, I am nervous about sex mainly because I don't want to be naked. I am not embarrassed but think it would be nicer to leave some clothes on or use a blanket to feel less exposed but can I do this or will I appear odd? Some of my friends say having sex semi dressed is fine, whilst others say you have to be naked. I know it's a childish question but I feel quite upset thinking that I might seem odd about how I want to sleep with someone. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2005): yea, so I'm a 17 year old male, it's not odd. It's done a lot with a blanket or like still have a shirt on. My last girl friend liked to wear a skimpy skirt wile we had sex.
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reader, mermaidprincess +, writes (7 July 2005):
I don't like to be nude either, like said before I or he rather buys cute little outfits, in which I leave the top on, if I do take my top off he is usually on top, it seems weird but it makes me feel "not so exposed" also... we always make love with the lights off.
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reader, Crazy_About_B +, writes (7 June 2005):
I know this might sound weird but I am 13 and I just starting having sex with my boyfriend that I have been with for one month and one week. At first I was scared to show him my body parts because I didn't feel comfortable with it, heck I didn't feel comfortable with having sex but my boyfriend and I are deep in love with each other. So every time we have sex I wear a skirt so I wouldn't have to see the bottom half of my body.So try that and see if that works but I'm pretty sure it is going to work.Like I always say" There is no good way to have sex unless you do the real thing."
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reader, alison +, writes (26 May 2005):
If you feel more comfortable wearing something, talk to the bloke you are with and tell him. If he loves you he won't mind. Buy something sexy and maybe he will want you to keep it on. Don't worry about it. There are many women that are more comfortable having sex whilst wearing clothes or under a duvet for many different reasons. Some of them may be self concious and in that case they could try it with the lights off.hope this helps,good luckxx
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reader, shan +, writes (20 May 2005):
if you find it hard to have sex with no clothes, then try dressing in something sexy. it will help you keep your clothes on but also give him a massive turn on
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (14 May 2005):
Hey, I'm 20 too and I'll be the first guy to answer. By the way I'm assuming you're straight and gonna be with a guy, if not I apologize and will be embarrased later. Your first time should be completely on your terms, and I really don't think your man is gonna care one bit, no matter what you wanna partially cover up with. You should wear lingerie, that really revs the male engine... ahhh. My girl used to wear a short black skirt sometimes. It's no big deal to most of us guys (except the few with weird fetishes in that department.) Go crazy
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reader, wwww.datinghaven.com +, writes (14 May 2005):
Believe it or not a lot of women (not being sexist so i guess its the same with some men) only will have sex under the bedcovers (so not exposed) and others only with the light off.If you just want to shag someone, for the sake of it, you are going to look odd. If you want sex with a bf/husband that loves you and has respect for you this wouldnt be a problem that you dont want to be fully naked. Alot of females believe it or not will like have sex with their bra still on and maybe even their top, obviously certain items of clothing have to be removed for accessibility but part from that none else need to be removed.Congrats! Unusual to hear from a 20yr old virgin, many people using this site and in general these days lost their virginity when they are like 13. Its great that you have waited to become more mature and im sure you will enjoy it more!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2005): This not a silly question at all. Whether you are a virgin or had a sexual encounter before, the reservations are the same. The best sex is often sponatneous and neither of you may wait to take your clothes off. Wearing nice underwear is sometimes sexy and more attractive than being naked. You could wear a pretty chemise perhaps. Don't forget that guys have the same kind of worries. He will probably wonder what you think about him. If you can pluck up the courage to have a chat and explain that you want to take it slowly it will all work out fine.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (14 May 2005):
 I don't see any reason why you shouldn't leave on some clothes. A T-shirt perhaps. You don't have to be naked to make love but it will be good if eventually you do feel comfortable enough to be naked. This will be all about building up confidence and trust in your partner and yourself.There isn't a rule book that instructs exactly how couples should make love and so it follows that there isn't one that demands you must be in your birthday suit to have sex. If the guy you decide to have sex with is understanding, he will be fine about you wishing to remain partly dressed. Eventually, he may wish you to be naked but just take it stage by stage.Perhaps keeping the light off could be one alternative. Just do whatever you feel comfortable with. The idea is for you to enjoy the experience so do whatever makes you feel secure.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2005): Hi sweetheart.You simply have to do what you feel most comfortable with.One day you may want to strip down and get naked then again you may simply wish to use a sheet,blanket little top whatever feels right for you.Being a virgin just thinking how,who with etc or when all add trememdous pressure onto you.Simply make sure that this is what you truely want with the person you really want where you really want and how you really want then just relax go with the flow and don`t think or analyse thing.i just want to say a very big good for you too for still being a virgin female at 20 as too many young girls are all to ready to give this up for boys who simply won`t respect them after it.so i am proud of you for sticking to some moral ground.I hope that i have been of some use to you.Take good care of yourself and i hope that it all goes really well for you.xx
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