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writes: Hi, I've known my bf for like 5 months now, but we have only just started going out. I don't know if he actually likes me. We live far apart and he is always busy at the weekends. My mate lives like down the road from him and I usually go to her house to see him, but my parents are not letting me go to her house any more. I don't know if he actually likes me. He texts me about 2 times every niight, but that is all. Also we are having a party soon and I think we are going to get really far with each other. I'm not sure about it though. I want to have sex with him but I am only going to be 14! Please help me, any advice would be awesome!!thnx xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2006): hi
i'm only 14 i really want to have sex with my boyfriend but i don't know??????????lost 4real
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reader, HappyTimeHarry +, writes (14 May 2005):
It really depends on your own morals. I mean, some people get freaky the first day they meet, and on the other end, some people wait 'til they get married. It sounds to me like you want to make sure he cares about you first, and text messaging you two times a night proves nothing. Guys mislead girls easy, and you're only 14 so you may not have figured out how easily yet. Not saying he's being fake, just not as real as it seems like you're looking for. My advice is don't cheapen yourself... you have lots of time to find what you're looking for.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (14 May 2005):
 If you aren't sure, don't do it! Find out first if he does really like you before you get intimate.Consider how you would feel if he only wanted you for sex. Would that be okay? If not, don't let anything sexual develop until you really are ready. Don't allow him to pressurise you.You are very young and under the legal age. Therefore, you would be breaking the law and the law is set to protect young people who are not mature enough to cope with a sexual relationship.Take your time in getting to know him and allowing him to get to know you. Simply put, only get into bed with him when you know what you want, where you stand and feel able to cope with the responsibility of a sexual relationship.Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2005): Without the age bit i would say no..leave it he doesnt appear to be interested. But you wanting sex @ 14 means that you really really like him? You say "i am only" and your parents not allowing you see him again...i guess he is (a lot) older then you?If you havn't got that bond in the first place, sex will just be a good thing for him, but will give the impression that you are just a piece of "Dirt" and you are up for anything. Not many guys would turn sex down, so dont think if he accepts that he actually likes you.But i dont understand why you wish to be his gf WHEN you live far apart and you dont even know if he likes you. he must like you even a tiny bit to be bf/gf...or just you assume that as you get on well?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2005): If this guy likes you he will understand your fears about having sex for the first time. If you have to ask if you are ready for sex yet, the answer is probably no you are not ready. 14 is still very young and sometimes our heart will rule our head. If he is a resonable guy he will be happy to talk to you about this. You will know when the time is right.
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