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writes:I am the second shyest and awkwardest person on the planet. The most shy and awkward person is the guy I'm into. We are both 19 and college students, and we've become pretty good friends over the last few months. I've been into him for a while; every person in our circle of friends knows this, so I'm sure he's known too. In fact we get teased about being a "couple" all the time. Twice now, after he's walked me back to my dorm, I've almost kissed him and lost my nerve both times. Last night was interesting though because while I didn't come right out and say "I want to kiss you," we both knew exactly what was going on and my cards are basically on the table now. We hugged and stood close for a minute and looked at each other, and then stepped back and I said "are we going to do this again?" because the first time we didn't kiss it went exactly the same way, and he said "do what?" even though I know he knew, and I told him he was unhelpful and we both kind of laughed and stood there and avoided eye contact and then he hugged me again (and he usually doesn't initiate hugs) and we both left. I know it doesn't sound like much but I don't think he has any idea what to do with a girl and considering how shy he is, I think maybe we made actual progress, especially with the way he went for the second hug. In your opinion does it sound like maybe he wouldn't mind if I didn't chicken out next time? Also, um, how exactly do I go about not chickening out?
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (10 May 2012):
agneeman, you're not the only one monitoring this question. :-)
This one is so sweet. Too bad she posted anonymously so we can't push her to respond.
Let's hope they are busy enjoying each other. ;-)
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (9 May 2012):
 so? What happened? Did you guys kiss? This is the sweetest post on Dear cupid
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reader, AuntieRI-RI  +, writes (25 March 2012):
Love....Just kiss the guy 3 LUUUUUUUUUUUCK! - Erina 3
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reader, Glacier +, writes (25 March 2012):
You may want to sit down with him, hold his hand, maybe stroke his hair a bit if you dare and tell him that you really like him more than just a friend.
Ask him if your feelings are mutual if he doesn't respond.
Good chance he will confess he really likes you too because you just gave him reassurance.
This alone can brake the ice and lift you guys above your shyness. I've been there too. What happened next was heavenly. :-)
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reader, heart245 +, writes (25 March 2012):
Yeah you both definately want to kiss. You should go forit next time, he wont mind, you'll be taking the pressure off him. He will kiss you back the first time is always the hardest. Next time, when you are standing close to each other just lean in he will know what you are doing he'll probably close the gap and Ta-Da. Be confident :D
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reader, curious1987  +, writes (25 March 2012):
 ask straight out " can i kiss u" he will either say yes, or lean in too kiss you. but from what you said he like s you, so just say can i kiss you, or are u gana kiss me? u have nothing to lose good luck, and please let us know how it goes.
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reader, agneeman +, writes (25 March 2012):
This is so sweet! I'm sitting on my mobile reading and smiling in the minibus!
Don't rush it, please? I think it will happen soon, I think he wants to kiss you... Just don't rush it... When its supposed to happen, it will be like you can't help it...
Its also a rule of thumb of mine to let the guy make the first move, they just find that more attractive some how... (plus, if we're wrong about him wanting to kiss you, then no harm done!)
Happy smooching! Hope it happens tonight! Let us know!!!!!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 March 2012):
 You are getting closer to closer to kissing. It will just happen inevitably. He doesn't know how you would react if he kissed you. The time will happen when passion overides your shyness. Best of luck to you.
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reader, Ashley Pickets +, writes (25 March 2012):
Everyone chickens out about something.. It does sound like he likes u, u shouldnt hold urself bak, ever.. If u like this guy (and obviously he like u) U should ask him out, or kiss him, not like make out with him, maybe for the first kiss u should just Peck him on the cheek... I also have been in this situation, i done the same thing u did for a while, then just sat him down and told him how i felt about himm... U should just go right out and tell himm how u feel about him, just PEK him on the cheek and then keep moveing more and more to the lips each time ... It should work.. And I HOPE this helps u in every way...
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