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writes:Does this guy I talk to sound a bit controlling/overprotective? First of all we met online. He likes my pictures but said he felt some of them were too sexy and some of the dresses were too short. He said he prefers the more casual/cell phone casually dressed pictures vs some model ones I had.He also told me he didn't want me talking to some other guy on there because apparently this guy and his friend had some kind of argument/fall outWe were in a group chat/discussion and I said I was thinking about getting a tattoo and he said nooo, but I think he was joking. Is he controlling?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): hell yes! under ANY circumstances, a guy should NEVER casually, inadvertently, subtly, directly, INdirectly, jokingly tell you who to talk to, how to dress or anything remotely similar. i mean, i can see this: youve been married 10 years, youre going out for dinner, your guy INSISTS on wearing his fave jeans, faded, full of holes, ya...youre not wearing those pants! ive had guys do this, try telling me who not to talk to, how i look in something, total crap,leads to more and worse in my experience. as for the person he doesnt get along with, its up to you to choose for yourself, and if hes a decent guy he would tell you youre beautiful in everything you wear xxoo
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 To be honest this guy sounds like the type of person you should stay way from. He has warning bells and already you feel uncomfortable. I'm pretty sure you already figured out that his behavior would lead to the point of controlling.Unless what chigirl said, you directly asked questions resulting in these answers then this is highly inappropriate of him.I suggest telling him goodbye and move on. Ignore him if he contacts you. Good Luck!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 June 2011):
 Yeah, I don't know.. are you thinking about becoming his girlfriend? For a complete stranger that you met online, he sure comes on too strong. To be honest, what you wear or not is none of his business and it is quite rude to even comment on it, as if his opinion matters more than your own! Did you ask him what pictures he likes best? Did you ask him if the dress is too short? If you asked, then you were leading up to it. But if he just said so out of nowhere, decided to comment and grade your pictures and sort of "approve" or "disapprove" of them.. then that's worrying. I'd get offended if a guy commented on what I wore like that, as it implies that his opinion on what I should wear is more important than my own opinion of what I wear. The guy is a douche.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (12 June 2011):
 That guy raises too many red flags. You haven't even met the guy (to my knowledge) and he is already telling you what he wants of you specifically.
I understand him commenting on the pictures because that is just what people do but to tell you not to talk to other guys is ridiculous even if you two were married. For the tattoo he may just have expressed his opinion but it doesn't sound like he would even consider your feelings towards wanting it.
I would say find another guy because he is sound far to controlling far to early into first talking with you.
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