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writes:My husband in the navy and he was on deployment but before he left we decided we were going to have a threesom together and we look for the perfict women and we thought we found her but she flaked out so he left. he was deployed with a friend of mine that he was close to as well and she was married as well but like being with females now and then being it would be my first time we decided i should be with a girl first. So we decided that our friend would be perfict but towards the end of deployment her marrige started to go bad and she decided when she got back that she was divorcing him so we decided she was the one for both of us we decided we wait till they got back so I thought but they decided otherwise and made a video of them having sex and lied to me when they got back seems that every port call they hooked up and to make long story short they were back and she had no place to go so I said she could stay with us not knowing what happen. We moved forward with the threesom and it was fine at first but then they started lieing and getting real close and with in a month him being back I was pregnant and I decided i did not want to call it quits and Oct of last year 4 months after there first incounter i found a email he wrote to her and it told everything i confronted them and they said it happen and i yelled fought and we all agreed it was a mistake and it was over but come to find out they never stoped they kept on and made videos i found them and they finally came clean about it all now I dont know what to do they want to continue but for me to be involved so they get rewarded and i told to get over it and that they both saying it my fault I started this.
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reader, FatTony89  +, writes (12 June 2011):
A. Either stay with him and accept this woman as his mistressB. Tell him it's either you or this "friend" of yoursC. SeperateD. Divorce and find someone else and never participate in a threesome again.It's your life so its up to you to pick the path that will make you happy. No reason to live life miserable.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (12 June 2011):
 It sounds like you gave your husband an inch and he took it for a mile. I believe your husband took your consent of having a threesome with being allowed to sleep with this other woman whenever he wants. This really isn't the definition of a threesome (at least not the way you and him originally had bargained for it to be).
Sadly, it sounds like your husband has grown attached to this woman. This happens more than you'd think with threesomes unfortunately. Some people can handle it, some people can't. Also being that he was deployed, she was available.
I think your husband has to pick and choose. It doesn't sound like this situation is acceptable to you and you need to make that clear to him. For him to blame you at this juncture is more or less a rationalization in his mind to excuse his infidelities. He has to man up to the child that you are carrying and be there for you during this time.
Good luck.
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