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*ommyd96
writes:hi ladies. im just wondering about this woman i dated briefly. i know she liked me for a few months before i asked her out but we never talked. i always seen her looking at me and when caught she turned her head very quick. major reason i was aware she liked me at the time. anyway, i asked her out and she said yes. 1st date went well and second went bad cause i showed up drunk. stupid i know. once her friends found out who i was they told her to stay away as im trouble and have a temper. she dumped me. i notice now she is back with her ex whom she shares a kid with. its been almost a year now and we still see eachother often but dont talk. i approached her once and told her i still like her and she said she is working things out with her ex. my question today is for the past few months i have noticed on a few occasions her looking at me and when i look she turns her head super quick again. somtimes she smiles and somtimes she looks mad. i dont get it. do you think this woman has feelings for me again? do you think her crush on me ever really left? i cant say aything anymore cause i put it all out there when i said i still liked her but my gut is saying she still likes me. in a females opinion am i right or reading to much into this? any help is great. oh ya, we live in the same building.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2011): not to be harsh or anything, but personally speaking.....if i liked a guy, and he asked me out, great! 1st date went fine, excellent...and then a second date...right on! i can feel the anticipation, but thats just me, especially if i was "diggin" ya lol if i really liked you ie; always checking you out/smiling, etc, you asked me out, we had a great date, planned for another...WHAM! you show up drunk! S#*T! THAT sucked lol im not her so i cant say for certain, but that would break my heart. id be thinking you didnt really dig me, didnt take me seriously, didnt respect me, and worse, didnt INVITE me lol itd be hard to keep an even feeling about you after that, i might be ok with it one day, hating you the next time, know what i mean? i bet she did like you, still does...all i can suggest, and what ID hope for (yep, this has happened to me), is that you get the chance to take her aside one day, apologize for that, and tell her maybe youd like to make it up to her? if she declines, at least youve let her know. sounds like shes trying to keep her family together, she has a child with this guy, thats a good thing too.....also, for the record, its tuff to not heed friends' warnings ie; what they told her about you....the last post i read here said to just keep being sweet, thats good advice, then she'll see the good side!
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reader, Batterytea +, writes (12 June 2011):
 Her sometimes smiling and sometimes looking mad might be because she wants to be nice as in "no hard feelings?" and her mad looks might be 'cause she's having a bad day and seeing you dampens her mood all the more.
I think she doesn't sound interested anymore, but if you want a last resort, just try to act real sweet all the time (not to her, just in general), and if she sees you being nice (since you guys live in the same building and all), she might reconsider, since what turned her off was you showing up to your date drunk. Or maybe stop drinking and make everyone around you acknowledge it.
I had a boyfriend once, and I dumped him because he tried smoking weed. He never did it again after that, and I've gained respect for him again.
Anyways, if it doesn't work, just move on.
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