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writes: Should I think my male friend likes me as more than a friend if he always wants to know whats up with me and other guys,and will always act like he never touches any other female. We hang out all the time and talk everyday..Am I reading too much into it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 Mmmm... I agree with dirtballs general rule up to a point. The problem is that being "forced together" is so broad that only when a guy approaches a girl he doesn't know and strikes up a conversation voluntarily could it not be considered "forced together" in some way shape or form. Being introduced to a girl by a friend can even be considered as "forced" unless you've specifically asked them to introduce you...
I personally can't see anything in what you've written that is terribly unusual of how I act around my friends who are girls and I have absolutely no intention of progressing the friendship into more... but that's just me.
Consider dirtballs questions:
"Questions to ask yourself: Does he try to hang out with me one on one? Does he actively seek activities for us to do together? Does his body language indicate attraction?"
But ask yourself those questions in relation to this one:
Is his behavior disproportionate to the total amount of time you've spent together? Ie. You wouldn't invite someone you just met to see a movie together without having the intention of being more than friends, whereas in time after you were good friends you certainly could- and not have any intentions behind it.
So yeh, he may or he may not like you as more than a friend, but kinda hard to tell with such little info.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (28 September 2010):
 I have a general rule about guys that applies here.
Men don't befriend women who they are not interested in sexually. What do I mean by this? I mean that men will not actively seek out friends of the opposite sex unless they would like to make the friendship progress further at some point. Plain and simple, that's how we operate. Are there circumstances where they are actually just friends? Yes, those would be times when you are forced together in some way. Examples could be; fellow employees at work, a regular customer at work, shared friend circle. The key to watch for is if he looks to spend time with her alone. That's usually the sign that he has a romantic interest in the relationship.
Questions to ask yourself: Does he try to hang out with me one on one? Does he actively seek activities for us to do together? Does his body language indicate attraction?
I'd venture he likes you.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (28 September 2010):
 I do not have the answers to all life's questions, but I really think this guy wants you bad. Maybe you should ask him what he thinks about you.
Does that help? Yes or no? Good!
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