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writes:does he like me, i am very confused?i have been seeing a guy for about 5 months now, and we sleep together and also he comes round and we spend time together. everytime i bring up that we start a proper relationship as girlfriend/boyfriend he always says hes not ready. He does spend lots of time with his friends, and i know this is because he las relationship the girl stopped him from seeing them, and it also ended very badly. He told me the other night he doesn't want to get his heart broken again. Me and him have also been friends for over 6 years, and he says its a lot to risk. I don't mind taking things slowly, but he just can't seem to commit and say that we are together. Like when we go out we talk to each other, but when people ask if we are togehter we just say no. It isn't that he pulls other girls, because he deosn't but then maybe he could if he wanted he is single. i just don't understand, fair enough he has had problems and maybe not ready yet, but then if i was worth it, would he not give it a try? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): he is in dating limbo he got hurt and he likes you but he cant think of what is the best thing to do!
you seriously need to sit the man down, tell him what you want and explain you have known him for 6 yrs an if he doesnt know you won't break his heart then its his loss!
some men use the "i've been hurt before" rutine you need to snap him out of it and demand an answer now. if he has been friends with you for 6 yrs and he is using you....he is not your friend!
either way you need to get out of the situation your in now
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): No he doesent like you. He just needs you. And please dont confuse and hurt yourself more, u deserve to be happy. Dont let him use you, make him love you by not only needing you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): guys like this are just grazing. he is having a serious relationship with you he is sleeping with you. if when anyone asks and he says he isnt then he is using you. pack him in. if he really wants you he will chase you if not then he was not for you anyway. next time establish what you want with your boy friends before you sleep with them. men are funny like that. if you sleep with him casually they never see you as reltionship potential just casual. make a man love you keep off the sex for a couple of months at least. then if its right sllep with him when he is head over heels in love with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): Hate to tell you this but when a guy is really into a girl, he WANTS everyone to know they are together. He is proud of that and wants everyone to know she is not available. He won't commit to a relationship but he will sleep with you, think about what this means.
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 I can understand where he is coming from but it is like you are going out just without the title. He is afraid of getting his heart broken understandable no one wants to have a broken heart but this has been going on for five months. How much time does he need? He is getting the sex etc without the responsibility of actually having a girlfriend. This is a nice set up for him but you want more. I think you need to explain this to him and tell him that things dont need to change much from what they are now, and that he can still see his friends when he wants to.
Good luck
Aunty t
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reader, kelpel +, writes (13 March 2007):
just think about what you already know, his last relationship ended badley, you have been friends for years and it would be a lot to loose (he must value you very much as a friend) and the last girl took him away from his friends - so not only has he got a lot of making up for lost time - its playing on his mind that it might happen again. people deal with past experience in different ways and especially men, its hard to know what to expect! :) i felt a similar way when i first got together with my partner, i'd had a nasty break up and I was fine with just having, i suppose you could call it a casual relationship, but as soon as he brought up the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing i just couldnt do it. lucky for me he accepted that and stuck around, and now 3yrs on we are engaged to be married. just goes to show how time changes things. My best advice would to be stick it out a bit longer. if you really like him just hold out a little more, good luck!
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