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*sears1989
writes:Someone help me plz. I don't know what to do. I've been with this guy for 11 months almost a year and he broke up with me last week and kicked me out but then he got back with me saying he doesn't want to be without me. Then like a week later because I kept bugging him about wanting a dog he thinks I'm going to go back to the way I was but I'm not. He also don't trust me anymore. What happend was when I was living with him I wasn't giving him his space and I kept fighting over stupid things and I accused him of cheating for no reason and I said things that weren't true. I kept saying I'm going to fix things but I never did. And when he broke up with me it made me realize I had been terrible. I mean he was no angel either he did things to but mostly I'm the one who ruined it more. But anyways I had started to change cause he gave me one last chance and I was trying then because I bugged about the dog he thought I was going back and he couldn't trust me so he ended it. He says he loves me and he doesn't want to break up but he can't live like that anymore and he just can't trust me. I keep trying to get him to take me back he says he don't know right now and that he wants to see other people. I don't want this to be over I know I messed up big time and I was fixing it but he didn't give me enough of a last chance to prove it. I can't let him go everyday were not together I miss him more and more I want him back but I don't know if that'll ever happen. What do you guys think I should do? He said maybe in the future we can get back together but not right now. What do I do?
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reader, Dsears1989 +, writes (7 April 2009):
Dsears1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. Everyones basically giving me the same. But I think its completely over now because his room mate told me he's done with me and looking to see other people but he said he didn't say that and he didn't answer one of my questions and he got pissed at me and won't give me the chance he was going to. He also didn't care when I said fine I'm done alls he cares about is me paying the debt I owe his family. He didn't say a word about me saying I'm done.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): you sound both angry and upset about how your boyfriend has treated you. I think you you need to stand back and think about what you are demanding from him.....you need to relax a little , give him some respect and time to think. He will come back to you if he feels that you can talk to each other and that you can work things out .If he won't talk to you , then is he worth it?
There are issues you need to sort out on why you broke up in the first place .....that is resolved by communicating . Go for a coffee , and a chat and good luck!!!
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (6 April 2009):
If he says no now maybe he really means it? Give him the space hes craving and in time hell have the feelings you are having now and hell want you back but youve given him what he asked for, this is showing him that your willing to give him space and its a new level of maturity, your moving away from the person you no longer want to be.
Good luck
Make sure the change in yourself is for you though- never change for someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): You should give him some space to think about things, maybe he just needs to realise whats important to him.
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