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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I'm lost! Recently found out my daughter is dancing for money and is living with her pimp. She won't leave him because she feels she safe and that she is in love with him. Is there anything I can do to save my daughter from this? Is there anyone else out there who has or is going through the same thing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): Dont judge her and dont critisise her. Just let her know that if she needs you you are there for her. Try and maintain consistant contact with her and let her know that you love her and do what makes her happy. Dont show her the flaws in the relationship as she will get defensive. Invite her home and ask her to sleep over but when you meet and chat even for just coffee dont say or do things to antagonise. At a young age girls are just sometimes looking for love and attention and for someone to make them feel special and accepted for who they are. Goodluck
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (7 April 2009):
Ask yourself, is he good to her. Also, has she been led down a bad path or did she walk it all by herself. Also, she has found love, maybe the situation isnt so bad. Anyway, there is little you can do about it and any attempts will just push her away from you.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 April 2009):
I've not been in this situation... but I have done things my mother would not approve of.
Just remember that if you tell her that what she is doing is wrong, and you hate it, then she has two options:
Admit she is wrong and stupid and come home
or
Be right and not come home.
You NEVER want her to be in a situation where she does not feel she can come home because you'll yell or say your told her so.
Just tell her that you are really worried about her but you know she has to make her own way in life. Tell her that you want to know she's ok and that she can come home any time she likes and you won't say a word.
Then just go and visit her, and her boyfriend and find out what her job actually is, and who this guy is.
Is he really a pimp? Or a man who runs a bar where girls dance?
Go with an open mind and above all tell her you love her and are proud of her no matter what she does in life.
Good Luck!! xx
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