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36-40,
*almerball
writes:Last spring, I hit it off with a guy, who was charming and doting and looked at me like the world would end if he turned away. After a few weeks we had our first kiss and slept together. We had a couple more great nights talking and drinking and then he started brushing me off.I caught on pretty quickly that he had a girlfriend and worked out that she was the girl I had once seen in his house, where she lived.That was that for me - when questioned he said: "But you have a boyfriend too don't you?" I didn't.He would call or text sometimes and try to talk to me when we met at shared workplaces - not often. I always made it clear I didn't want anymore to do with him professionally or personally, until something went horribly wrong with a guy I was falling for and I ran out of people to call.I rang him crying hysterically and asking for help to make it better and he listened, advised then called me later that evening and again the next day. He also had words with the person who had caused the drama.We were not in contact again until he rang on New Year's Day sounding very upset. He's not a man who shows emotion, so I was alarmed. He had called time on his relationship and was hoping to see me. I listened, but definitely did not go to see him.From then until last week he rang or text me virtually every single day. I gave in a few times and went for a drink or dinner, and he was the same, charming man I first fell for.I decided to give him a second chance and said he could stay up last weekend. He was delighted right up until I was about to meet him in the bar and he revealed he couldn't stay because he had something (legitimate) to do early in the morning. I was so keen to be with him intimately that I let him come back and we had sex anyway. It was a great night, but I made it clear that I was in no way impressed about him leaving.He texted me on the way home, and when he got home, and he sent a short one on Monday, but seemed to drop off the radar a bit after that. I had promised him I would come to his home town this past weekend because he had asked so many times and come to see me so many times, but when I brought it up again on Thursday, trying to organize myself, he was away Friday, unavailable Saturday, and would think about Sunday.I told him to forget about it and saw him at a mutual workplace on Sunday. He was smiley, but not particularly chatty and didn't seem interested in meeting up afterwards, though he did text to say he was sorry he went to his friend's house to chat instead of coming out.Does this sound like he's lost interest?
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reader, tdntuck  +, writes (21 February 2011):
 Yes, it does sound as if he has lost interest. Don't settle, if you feel like he's stringing you along, then he probably is.
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reader, sha9991  +, writes (21 February 2011):
Hi,
Stay away from this guy he is a no good player and a user,he got what he wanted from you and has run off again,he likes the thrill of the chase,you gave in to him to easy and he knew you would!
How do you know he called time on their relationship,he could be lying,he could still be with her or she called time on the relationship,cuz he is a no good cheater and she found out!
Find a guy who's single,who treat women with respect and let him chase you,be in a relationship for awhile before you sleep together!
I hope I have helped? All the best! :)
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (21 February 2011):
 I'm afraid it does. He cheated on his then-girlfriend with you and tried to justify it by saying he thought you had a boyfriend. So, he's deceptive and as later behavior showed, unreliable.
Surely you can't still want him after all that - can you?
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