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writes:Hello, I wanted to ask whether this girl and I are right for each other. I think we are. I'd like some more feedback before I make a move. I care about this girl so much that the though of rejection petrifies me. I want to be as certain as possible that she has feelings for me. I'm not looking to jump into a relationship ASAP but I'd like to start spending more time with her and I think that'd lead to something more naturally. Thanks for the responses!My list:1. We're both single and looking.2. We have chemistry. We can talk about anything. We smile and laugh and sometimes when we are really vibing the eye contact feels deep. When we are really into it, I feel an undeniable spark. It's like a natural high. She has been moody the last couple months so some days I feel distant and it makes me overanalyze things but in my heart I feel like there is something there.3. Attraction. She has complimented me on my looks and overall appearance before and I find her attractive as well.4. We make each other laugh, and we play jokes and pranks on each other and others. She's the funniest girl I know.5. We are both like-minded in terms of values. We are both sweet, genuine, caring, family-oriented, etc. 6. We both have intelligence. She is the smartest girl I know and she has commended my smarts before. We both aspire to further our education. Being like-minded in this aspect helps.7. I have always felt like she actually cares about me. It's just a gut instinct. I've never felt this from another girl before. I could be wrong as this is just an instinct and how I perceive things. 8. If we hung out I think we'd have fun. We could do things like attending sports games, movies, theater, and just hanging out. And like I mentoned, we make each other laugh and we can talk.9. We both have a solid sense of maturity for our age. We aren't totally wrapped up in all the craziness of people our age.So what do you guys/gals think? I think it's logical that I make a move but the thought of rejection worries me.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 November 2015):
 It sounds all pretty good to me, and definitely worth giving it a shot.
Of course there is no totally 100% safe bet in life, so insuccess in any enterprise it's always a possibility . But the odds seem in your favour and if you don't try because you dread rejection, it's like if you refused to cross the street on a pedestrian crosswalk with the green light in front of you, because there still could be the possibility of some crazy reckless driver mowing you down at 100 mph. . Sure, freak accidents may always happen, but chances are that you will make it unscathed to the other side.
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reader, chipmunk37  +, writes (24 November 2015):
 Just one word ...or rather sentence of advice.
Faint heart never won fair lady." you need to take that leap of faith. She is worth it.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (5 May 2010):
 Stop over analyzing everything! Good grief - take a risk man. PS - as for #9 - no you're not! Otherwise you would not be agonizing like this. This is going to require a leap of faith on your part - however, to ease your mind all the stars seemed lined up just right so make a move NOW-- before some other guy does. Don't be so afraid. If you can make each other laugh - that is over half the battle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): she sounds like you guys really get along!!
you never know until you try so go for it!
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reader, Sakuchanz +, writes (5 May 2010):
Take a shot! Or even take the "he said she said" approach and have a mutual friend (girl or guy) say they "suspect you like her" Chances are, her response and reaction will reveal it.
But from what you've said it seems like a match made in heaven! :)
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reader, JazzedUp +, writes (4 May 2010):
 Okay, I think you're good here. The list really helped and I think that she must feel something. You should at least try. Now, one thing before you get happy on me lol, as you may have found, girls LOVE declaring that some guys they are close to are better to them as only a friend. Yes, I know that hurts worse than a rejection but it happens, and you should be ready. You just have to hold your head up and talk to her. If she says yes, then you're good, if she says you're better off as friends, then try your best to play it off so that you can maintain the wonderful list of connections you and her have. I still think you should talk to her tho dude, she may be waiting on you to right now. Just mentally prepare yourself just in case, but don't let it get to you. As close as you are there's no way she'll think any less of you for just trying to find something more. Hope that helps =)
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