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writes:HiI met a girl online and on the same day she suggested I could visit her, stay in a hotel and she would spend the night with me. She says she wants something more than just a hookup. I'm really not sure what is going on here. Do you think that sounds like she is looking for sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (6 February 2019):
 Sounds like set up..could be something like the old show "To catch a Predator". google it. Don't do it. You might wind up in jail..or dead.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2019): Original poster.
Just to clarify, she is 31 and I did video call her before she started to talk about those things. I'm sure she is a genuine person i just don't understand her motives.
I'm more worried she is just very desperate and fragile rather than worried she is some sort of criminal
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (5 February 2019):
 Whoa! Hold your horses, tiger! This has so many red flags waving, it's downright horrifying.
A girl you contact with on line suggests on the SAME day you meet up in a hotel and offers to sleep with you? This could be so many different kinds of traps. She could be underage and you could be blackmailed to stop her going to the police after you have sex with her. She could be part of a gang who will do who-knows-what to you once they have you trapped in a hotel room. She could be a guy pretending to be a girl.
My bet is, if you hold back and say you want to get to know "her" better before meeting up with her, she will quickly disappear and ghost you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 February 2019):
 Oh this just came to me as well,
WHAT if she is a girl, but UNDER AGE? You just have NO idea of the kind of trouble this can lead to.
Getting to know someone online isn't ALWAYS something sinister or bad, but I think planning to book a hotel room to meet up or hook up in with a BASICALLY total stranger is RARELY a good idea.
If she is why she claims to be, WHY not visit, meet in a public space and see how you get along? She hasn't give you her home address for safety reason (I'd presume) so why would YOU give her access to your hotel room?
Meeting up with someone you can't GET TO KNOW on a almost daily basis IN PERSON is that really what either of you want? Where would that lead? A LDR? At your age?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 February 2019):
I'd be vary too.
What if this isn't a girl, but a dude?
I think you should LOOK for a a girl to date closer to home, someone you can get to know IN PERSON, not over the Internet or phone or apps.
It doesn't sound like a good idea at all.
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reader, N91 +, writes (5 February 2019):
 This sounds really suspect.
If she wants more than sex then why would she suggest a plan that sounds like a one night stand?
Why wouldn’t she invite you to her house? A public meetup point? Why a hotel on the SAME day you met?
How certain are you that this is a real person? Sounds to me like you could be being lured into some kind of trap.
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