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writes:Hey, I am just here and confused and I really need help from you my cupid friends. :)Well my question is - I am Hispanic (Dominican republic) but my boyfriend is white. Do you think that effects our relationship because we're baptist and do you think that our kids would come in different races and our religion, do you think people would like that or not because whites should be with white or Latino with Latino or African American with African American. I hope I made it clear help! Reply to this Question
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reader, nickie123 +, writes (10 April 2009):
nickie123 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks to all of you i am really grateful for your answersyou guys made me realized that there is great people and i really appreciate Cat, thankful and all the other answers you guys are really good people and i am very grateful
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 I love my skin color (tanned/dark brown) and though I still think Caucasians are soooo pale in their complexion [compared to me at least ... lol], my past serious relationships had nothing to do with skin color nor race.
My point is, I fell in love because of their whole being as a good person, with integrity and mostly with good sense of humour. Not because of their skin color (or "race), their body fat (lack thereof, or excess of ). their height (I am 4' 11", had a lovely bf who was 6'6"), their age (legally speaking of course), their religion, their hair (or lack thereof lol, though I always love thick wavy hair on men), and other physical and/or superficial traits.
If people talked about who you dated, listen to what they are saying first before you reacted negatively against it. If they are saying negative things, ask them why they have those thoughts or perceptions. Sometimes people "talked' because they are concerned that minorities would not have access to some of the things that the majority would have no problem accessing themselves. For instance, if a Jew needs to go to a Synagogue, and there is not one in your community. Or A Christian amongst a predominantly Muslim community, and the only church exists in a town 2 hours away. Then they might be concerned that this would affect your relationship with your boyfriend.
As for your [future] children, look at picture that Denny/Damluvaam has on his avatar. And look at his profile. He and his wife are stellar examples of a "mixed race" product. Look at Halle Berry, Barack Obama, Kimora Lee-Simmons (fashion model), etc etc etc. You will create beautiful children! Now all you need to do, when you grow up and decide to have a family of your own, is to bring up beautiful people, inside and out! Most of all, make sure they respect human rights [and our mother earth]
You still have a long way to go yet, to raise your own family. But whatever people say about who you are dating, and whatever challenges you will face in your life in the future, they will only help you shape to become a good, wise and strong person in the future.
Enjoy and teenage years, in the most positive way!
Cat
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reader, Spamalot  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 As one of the previous answers pointed out, the only 'race' on this planet is the human race. There are different cultures and backgrounds but in the end, everyone is the same.
Some people don't like this, unfortunately, and don't see it in this way. My ex was Asian & I'm 'white' and that didn't affect the relationship at all. But hey, if someone says that you shouldn't be together because of your different 'races', they need to have a nice cold bucket of water tipped over their heads!
Hope it helped & good luck! :)
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