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36-40,
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writes: Hi me and my husband got into it last night. I just recently got a facebook account. I mainly got it to keep in touch with long distance family since i moved out of town. However i saw a lot of people from my old middle and high school and i accepted friend request and added people as friends. I have added male friends to. I have not added any one i use to date or kick it with, but my husband is up set. he is upset and i have not even chatted with any of the males on my friend list(unless they are family). should he be mad. He has a account but he does not have many friends cause he dont go on that much. He knows all my passwords and i have nothing to hide. i don't know what to do. Last night i think he even start looking up old ex girls of his. I am not doing anything wrong. Do you think that i am wrong. And don't you think he is taking this to another level by calling old girl friends up. After all i have not dated any of the guys on my page.
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (21 October 2008):
 You can do whatever you want. Dont let him control you. In order not to feel bad about what you do, make sure you are honest about your intentions for doing it. If you do something out of spite, it will haunt you.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 I have my own Facebook page and my husband knows about it, so I don't think that you are doing anything wrong. I have even chatted to several old males friends on Facebook. Talking with old male friends isn't phoning an old girlfriend, and I think your husband is wrong to say that they are the same thing. Either he is using it as an excuse to phone his old girlfriends, or he is doing this to control you and what you do. He needs to realize that his little jealous fit isn't going to stop you from being an independent woman, and he should trust you far enough for you to speak to old friends, men or women. My kids are your age, and they both have Facebook pages with 250 friends of BOTH sexes, so I think that most people your age do use Facebook the same way that you are. Either he trusts you or he doesn't, but you shouldn't have to jump through hoops to prove anything to him. Pretty soon he'll be telling you to cover up, stay home and not talk to your family just so that he can have total control over you, so you had better nip this behavior of his in the bud. I don't think that you should let him get away with it.
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reader, masquerade711 +, writes (20 October 2008):
 It sounds like your husband is being completely unreasonable.The fact is, just because you've added someone as a friend on Facebook does not mean you're going to be talking and messaging constantly. I've added people on Facebook that I hardly ever talk to.I would say keep letting him have access, and once he realizes you're not hiding anything or being unfaithful to him, he'll lay off. I would advise that you demand access to his page too, if he's going to be so stupid. :)masq
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