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writes:Ok so me and this guy are in a relationship, both of us are with other people as well. My guy just found out that his mom has cancer so I thought the best thing for our relationship would be for me to back down. He is all his mother has and with all the stress he is under already not to mention the stress he may endure~ I assumed it would be best. Do you think I made the right decison? Reply to this Question
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reader, supermum  +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Only you know if this was the right desicion for you...
do you feel better, does your ex feel better, are you on good terms? would you still be able to support him if things go wrong?
If you are still friends, amicable and you both agree it is for the best, i see know problem
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reader, auddi  +, writes (29 August 2008):
Hi,
Were you guys in a serious relationship?? Like, you wanted to spend the rest of your life with him?
(This is a personal opinion - so ignore if you do not agree with me) But if yes, then i think you should support them both emotionally and by other possible means, too.
They need genuine love and care and it would be great if you could support them. You boyfriend must be feeling really low and stressed out. I think he would need your emotional support.
I know this can be difficult, so if you think you will not be able to do this for too long and if you think it might stress you down, then i think your decision was ok.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (29 August 2008):
 Hi, Well I'm trying to work out what you gain from backing down. I would talk to him, offer your support and tell him that he has your support and you want to work through this with him. If he needs time out or time alone with mom then give it to him. (If he asks)Remember, he may lose mom so will be scared of losing you too. Hannah.
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reader, les +, writes (29 August 2008):
You should let him know that you understand that he's having a hard and difficult time and you realize that its best for him to be with his mom.
But at the same time let him know that you'll back down but if he needs you you'll be there for him so it doesnt seem like your bailing from the relationship b/c he's having a difficult time.
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