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writes:Hi I'm a 23 yr old woman iv been with my boyfriend for almost 3months he never calls me unless I ring him,he hardly texts too. Three weeks ago I tried ringin him contiously as he did not pick up my calls and rhe next mornin he dumped me. When I met him out yhat night he told me he wanted nothing to do with me and acted bad with me the next day he went to another girls house as I found a video of her in his phone with her tits out he denied sleepin with her and said she only gave him a blow job I found out that I'm carrying his child only after I told him that he started tellin me how happy I make him and he wants to work out things with me but I need to go through an abortion if not he wants nothin to do with me. I went to his place and he told me he wanted to talk to me but made me promise to forgive him for what he was going to tell me I promised and he told me he had sex 2 weeks after we got in a relationshipPlease help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2011): get an abortion. you will have no end of trying to contact this idiot otherwise
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reader, Cuddlybear  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 Dont abort your baby, plenty of mum are single and cope fine, this isnt your babies fault x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 If you have his baby you are tied to him for life.
IF you are not against abortions I'd have one
AND I'd never speak to him again. he's a jerk.
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reader, kylieekristina +, writes (27 May 2011):
 This guy is a jerk!! Leave him and do what your heart tells you to do in regards to you being pregnant
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2011): Oh hun. I'm so sorry. I've been through a similar thing recently. This guy i have been dating hardly contacts me either, and hardly responds to my text and phone calls. I'm thinking of calling it off with him. It shows a lack of respect and interest when guys act like that.I think you should dump him. It's not worth wasting your life being with someone like that, when you could be spending it with someone who does genuinely care about you, and who is reliable. There are plenty more fish in the sea !. I know it must be difficult because you are carrying his child, but i don't think it's worth staying with him for the child's sake,although, he should still be able to see the child.
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reader, Abella +, writes (27 May 2011):
 there's not much love in this relationship. And he has proved that he's not exactly reliable. Nor can he be faithful. Dump this man, he sounds like a loser, who will not stand by you. He is not a man you can rely on. And he is not a man who will take you into consideration no matter where (or who?) he wanders to, when it suits him.
Put yourself first and ask yourself, 'Is this good for me?' and if the answer is, 'no,'then walk away. Look at how a man behaves towards others and how respectful he is to you. If he is not respectful at the outset, then forget such a guy. Such men will never bring you long term happiness. Hoping he will become more respectful, in time, is wasting your time.
Rethink what you want and need in your life and choose what is in your best interest, for your future.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (27 May 2011):
 Do i think he is using you?? This isn't the question you should be asking... Do i think that he is an arrogant, controlling, total waste of time? YES YES YES!!!
He says you need to have an abortion and then he'll be with you, do you seriously think he'll change if you do what he says??? No - he won't.
Here's what you do, tell him that he is an idiot and that you want nothing more to do with him. Secondly, decide if you should keep this baby or not (i suggest not as you are only young and the father wouldn't be interested in him/her anyway by the sounds of it) Thirdly, get an STI test. If he's been sleeping with other girls then you may have picked something nasty up.
This guy is a loser, tell him that he is a waste of space and you can do so much better than an arrogant, controlling little boy!! All the best hun :)
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (27 May 2011):
Your boyfriend seems like a total douch. He's not showing any signs of being interested in you, he's showing interest in other girls and he's cheated on you. Second, you're seeming really insecure and needy - not surprising, when he's treating you so badly.
It's a shame that you've found yourself pregnant and you can't just walk away from this guy, coz that would have been the best option.
3 months in to a relationship it's supposed to be all happy and exciting and the best time when you're getting to know each other. Sadly, it seems you've got to see that this guy simply aint no good. I hope you have some close friends or family who you can confide in, you need to. I'd actually seriously consider the abortion.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (27 May 2011):
 I think its better for you to not have this baby.
you don't know this guy. please use protection next time you have sex with someone you barely know, or go on birth control.
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reader, lysha +, writes (27 May 2011):
 staaaay awaaaay!
^^ my only advice, it seems that yes he is using you, he cheated on you twice, he has sex with someone, your never gonna be able to trust him again, and as for telling you to have an abortion then yes he is using you, if he really loved you he would of wanted a family, but still you wouldnt of been able to trust him, you need to do what you think is best where this baby is concerned, :)
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