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writes:Do you believe in love at first sight? What do you think of a 15 year old dating a 23 year old? Is it wrong? Let me know!Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2007): There is no such thing as love at first sight, there is lust at first site, but to love someone is to know them and be committed to them.
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reader, baby blue fairy  +, writes (10 February 2007):
no i believe you have to get to know someone before you can be in love but love and lust however are 2 different things! 15-23 is a big gap and its not really at all right. If he likes you he will be willing to wait, if not move on find someone nearer your age, its better that way it may not feel it yet but it is!!
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reader, kj0483  +, writes (9 February 2007):
you are too young to be with someone who is 23. i'm sure it is just lust and that you will met someone closer to your age. i'm 23 and i know there are no common grounds with someone who is younger that 19. you can't go to the places he can. be friends, think of him as an older brother, but don't let yourself get wrapped up in him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): noo way!!
LUST A FIRST SIGHT YES!
and that age gape is wrong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): Sorry, I should have stated:
"it's highly inapproriate for a 15 year old female to date a 23 year old male."
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): Yes, I do agree that is is highly inapproriate for a 15 year old female to date a 25 year old male. What is wrong with his head? And where is his common sense and maturity? And why can't he relate to and date woman, his own age? And as the Aunts said, there are serious legal consequences to consider here. Most guys that age would run in the opposite direction when finding out you were 15! And in answer to your other question, no there is no such thing as 'love at first sight' but there is such a thing as 'lust at first sight'. Adolescents are especially suseptible to mistaking lustful feelings for love. Love is tough to attain and it takes a long time of building. Some people mistakingly define being 'in lust' as that being 'in love' because it's that romantic passion feeling we get usually the first few months of a new relationship...the honeymoon, fun, dizzying phase. But...it's not really. It's the phase when we are on our best behaviours and spending every waking moment together. The "in lust" phase is totally natural and it's the phase that brings people together and gives the relationship the kickstart it needs to get over obstacles and develop the relationship into a wonderful, deep long term loving relationship. Eventually, that dizzy feeling fades and then we relax, we become our true selves a bit more, and commit to truely loving that person we are with. When you choose to love, you decide to look at the other person in a positive light and you back up those thoughts with positive actions. And the 'love' part takes hard work and efforts to get there, but it's worth it in the end. I suggest you date guys your own age and look forward to making all these discoveries on your own and in your own time. Try not to grow up too fast, hun. Enjoy being an adolescent!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (9 February 2007):
 I do not believe in love at first site: I believe this is lust. Love is something that must be achieved by getting to know someone deep down like nobody else knows them and having a special bond. You cannot get this by just looking at someone.
Yes, that age gap is wrong and the older one should know better. Not only is it illegal, it's sick, 15 is still a child.
Don't even think about it.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (9 February 2007):
 My thoughts: no to love at first sight and yes its wrong
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reader, KirstyS +, writes (9 February 2007):
 Don't be put down by people saying your too young to love- but still leave it a while(like, a year) before you do anything. one of my friends, who's also 15, has a crush on a 23 year old, but won't ask him out, because it's wrong. Do the same as her! try and find someone your own age
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): It is ILLEGAL for a 15 year old to be with a 23 year old. You could get him sent to prison. And, Im sorry but at 15 you really don't know what love is although it may feel like it. Give yourself time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2007): You aren't even 16 and you might consider going out with a 23 year old. That is wrong. If you were to have sex with this guy then he would be breaking the law and would possibly be sent to prison. For both of your sakes don't think about entering a relationship with him. Stick to guys your own age.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (9 February 2007):
 If I were 15 I wouldn't date a 23 year old! Most of them are far more experienced in life and sex. He may be really nice but you are still very young, especially if it got serious, which it probably would. You're still underage to have sex for one!
If he did have sex with you (albeit consential) then he would be breaking the law and could be charged or even go to jail for having sex with a minor! If he really likes you then he'll wait until you're a bit older.
Don't be tempted, trust me, it will only cause you heartbreak.
Eve
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