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anonymous
writes:To many women think we are playing mind games with them so guys I'm gona have to spill the beans and tell them what we are realy doing. When a guy has a great conversation with you wherever it may be and then all of a sudden seems to ignore you for three or 4 days and then talks to you again it seems like he is playing games to most women. If he starts talking to you after 3 or 4 days pass this is what's happening. The entire time you think he is ignoring you he is actualy day dreaming of you. Replaying that last awesome conversation you had in his mind over and over again. Living in the moment that gave hime goose bumps and chills. Why not approach them again quickly. Well did you ever do something really funny tell a great joke and wish you could call it a night because your next one might not be quite as funny. Did you ever hit a home run in softball or girls soccer and wish the game could end on that note because you might not be able to out do that. The guy is so enthralled and enchanted by what happend he lives in the momory of it for several days. Because if he says something dumb in between he feels it ruins the memory of that great convo and impression he made with you and you him. But this isn't your fault ladies guys should know and I especialy include myself in this I am the most gulty. We should know that you can't read our minds. And that when we are daydreaming of you you don't know this. But this Is the reality of what usualy happens when he gets back to you after a great conversation. But it takes 3 or 4 days. So my question is do women realize this about guys? And now that you do how has it changed your opinion of the jerks who ignore you? Because everything I said is 100 percent true. And by the way not easy for a guy to admit. Reply to this Question
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reader, Artistry +, writes (8 February 2009):
 Hi there, Maybe not true for all guys, but what a great perspective. You seem to be a nice exception to the rule.
Take care.
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (7 February 2009):
 IDK what happened to my first response but here goes again. I seriously hope you're not pulling my chain with this one. Do you have any idea how many girls have posted this question only to get the response "kick him to the curb!" I am going thru this same thing right now and think I have totally messed it up with my insanity of the no contact thing. This is how my guy has been working - he starts txtg, we meet, he stops contacting me for a week, sometimes 2, then it starts again. I go absolutely nuts during the no contact period thinking he's talking to someone else, having sex with someone else, etc. This info is so helpful for me cuz I could just never figure it out. Like someone else said, now I can sleep at night, hopefully without being medicated. Get me privately... got more to my story.
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (7 February 2009):
So you're saying I should contact him soon and not wait for him? That actually hasn't worked for me. Please oh please contact me privately cuz you're one of very few guys I think I can actually learn from. I'm in an awful mess right now with a guy and I seriously need some guidance.
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (7 February 2009):
I am printing this out and reading it everyday. This no contact period makes me totally nuts - TOTALLY. I think that he's talking with someone else or that he doesn't want to meet again, etc. I hope you're not jerking my chain, cuz I and others have asked this question before and never got an answer. We usually get "kick him to the curb." Thank you thank you thank you. Like someone else said, now I can sleep at night, hopefully without being medicated!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (7 February 2009):
 Ok here is another guys take, We don't play mind games. As I am sure you have often guessed we just don't have that much to play with (j/k). If we want to play a game we get a ball and throw it at something.
Seriously tho I married the first girl I met that I could talk straight to.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): That's really interesting. I've always thought they just didn't care. But to turn the table; how do guys feel if the girl doesn't start the conversation/ or she doesn't contact the guy in a couple of days?
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (7 February 2009):
i think this is true for some guys, but not all.i do remember that most of my ex's did this no talking for a couple of days, but i always knew that if he was really into me, he would call..they always did. it's abit like when i had a first date with one of the ex's, at the end i never kissed him and i knew he wanted to kiss, but we both went our separate ways home. then a few days later i got texts from him saying how it was great and that he really wished he had made a move. then the 2nd date came along and we did kiss and after that he went into a "day dream" for a day or 2 then called again asking for another date.
i think it's sweet if guys do "day dream" and i think women need to relax alittle when guys don't call. however with another ex he didn't call for a few days and that's when things started to fizzel out. so i guess it just depends on the guy and how the relationship is going.
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reader, sonny0732 +, writes (7 February 2009):
 wow guy code went out the window with you didn't it. thanks man real smart
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (7 February 2009):
 Although I'm of an older generation, I think it was more often the case in the past than it is true today, and has never applied predominately.
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reader, chromevariant +, writes (7 February 2009):
This is true in my case, too. When I started getting involved with my crush, she told me in the beginning she thought she said something stupid because I'd ignore her for a few days. I felt terrible, I told her it was the complete opposite. Told her I wanted to leave what we had at a high note, and didn't want to do anything that might have ruined it. Told her I'd think to myself for days about her, the conversation, and how to improve upon it.She had no idea.
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reader, crazy_in_luv +, writes (7 February 2009):
do u realize u have enabled so many women to go to sleep peacefully by this piece of wonderful informationi thank u on behalf of all my fellow girls and women out there who have met these idiots who didnt call..thanks again,and no,i for one,had no idea at all about this:)
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reader, steffi666 +, writes (7 February 2009):
That may be how you feel but that's not the whole population most are just jerks.. there's only a few that are like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009): Daydreaming?That's hilarious.Go read "He's just not that into you" ...
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reader, unique-angel +, writes (7 February 2009):
youre jokin, maybe true for 45% of blokes..who are either gay married or takenthe reason most guys ignore is because they are playing games, cannot be arsed enough to talk. and want the girl to talk to them frist..
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