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51-59,
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writes: My boss and I have been fooling around for about 6 months, no sex, no kissing, just fondling. We haven't gone further as he is very afraid of my husband finding out and hurting him. We are both married with children. Yet we continue to fool around. Do men actually get afraid?
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reader, mrvhappy  +, writes (27 October 2010):
Hi natasia,
Thanks for that..finally a FAN!!
PS where do I send the Chq? :)...lol
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Why, do you think a married man who fondles his married subordinate might actually lie?
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reader, natasia +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Mr V Happy is, as always, completely right and to the point.
This will, at some moment, go horribly wrong, and you could lose your family, and seriously distress your children and husband. Stop it if you care about them.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Sure men get scared too, but right now he's thinking with his dick, not his head... hence you two continue. I'm not sure WHAT you are thinking with but why are you doing it? Why do you think it's OK?
You are both married. Does your wedding Vows mean that little to you? Does your husband? Your kids?
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (27 October 2010):
Have you not thought that what you are doing is selfish and wrong? If I was your child and I found out my mum was having an affair with her boss, i'd never see her as anything more than a cheap slut. That sounds harsh, but it's true!The right thing would be to break this off with your boss. Perhaps you need to leave your job. Work out whats missing in your marriage and work at improving it. Do those things and you'll look back at this episode and really see how close you were to f**king up your life.
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (27 October 2010):
Hi there,
I wont judge you on this one.
All I will say is if you screw around with people..prepare to screw up and loose everything
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2010): Yes in ur boss' case as he knows he is doing something wrong with someone els's wife. Yes he is married and he knows that he will be in hot water if his wife finds out. Yes because it can ruin his position since he is your boss. Really he has a lot to lose that gain if it gets discovered.
Aren't you afraid of your husband? Or his wife?
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Of course they do. And did you ever consider that perhaps he's afraid of your husband finding out and beating the living daylights out of him or worse? Its something to think about, isn't it? You need to figure out what you want, and take action. Having an affair is never a smart thing to do, people have died from messing around....look at the newspapers. A person you think you know could go into a jealous rage and do some pretty scary things. Maybe your boss thinks about this, who knows? Either leave your husband, or end the affair. Its not fair to your husband.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 I believe so yes.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2010):
Yes. But we also start to feel guilty. You are both married, and both have children. What you are doing is wrong, and he is just taking it as far as he can go, knowing that he can squirm out of it if his wife finds out.
Wake up. You have no idea about the effect this will have on your husband and more importantly, your children. If you are found out, you'll probably lose your husband, your job and your kids will just hate you.
This is wrong - you should know that. So either get a divorce and wait for him to do the same, or go home and be a wife and mother and work on your marriage. Please, for God's sake, don't hurt your kids like this. Children do not forgive a parent's betrayal. Ever.
You are wasting time with a married man, and you'r putting your children's happiness and your marriage at risk.
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