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writes:Hey i just wondering, do men regret not being in their child's life... like they know they have one or do they have to see the child before they regret not being there or do they just not give a damn?and before anyone says I stopped him seeing his child, I haven't! I'm quite willing to work with him because i believe every child has the right to know their daddy... Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 Some men do regret not being in their child's life, and some others don't regret it at all.
Judging by your age, the man in question must be very young and perhaps feeling like he's free again. He might not be at a stage in his life where he appreciates the need to be responsible. He might think his child is a burden to him, not someone he should care after just because.
Many parents eventually regret not being in their children's lives. That usually happens when the men are old enough, like, say, fifty. I wonder, however, whether this regret truly comes from the love they didn't give, or the fact that they are aware they will eventually die, and want their life to mean something. That is to say, whether this is a feeling that comes out of their own needs, or out of not having met the needs of others.
Judging by the gender you state, however ("male"), I wonder if this is a same-sex couple. In that case, the child might not be biologically the other guy's. Maybe the bond between him and the child is even weaker than it is with some children who are biologically the man's.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 That depends. Some men are vile in all forms.
My own father left me with my three siblings and my mother. He went off to start another family. I now have half brothers and half sisters whom I have never met.
He does not seem to regret it. There was a time when I thought he did but, not anymore. I think eventually he learned to get over it which, in itself is vile.
A father should ALWAYS be there for his child, no matter what. The innocent child comes first.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): Anyone I know whose dad left has told me that their dad regretted it. It has also made like very difficult for the child in all cases I know
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