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writes:Just wondering what men think..... I met a guy for dinner that I met online... we hit is off great. Had a great time. Met for a second date... it was hot. Did some making out... I did not do it with him. Told him I dont do one night stands. He called me everyday for a week and has called a couple times since. He is or was interested but says he is so busy with kids etc.. We have alot in common... laughed and enjoyed each others company. I have not called him... did text once or twice just with general comments ref weather etc... did not ask to see him or anything. He told me I was "hot"... What do you suppose he is thinking? Do I just wait and hope he calls? He was interested enough to contact me.. go out twice...he did mention that he does not want to get too involved. That was before making out and calling me everyday for a week.... Looking for wisdom on what a man 55 might want and what any underlying messages might be...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): It sounds as if he likes you but is not looking for a relationship. He has said as much. If a relationship is what you want, then forget him. No one is too busy to get together with someone they don't want to lose. So don't call him, you'll seem needy and I think he may call but decide what you want and have your eyes open.
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reader, Negotiator +, writes (23 December 2010):
Lose his number. This guy told you up front he's playing. He called you at first because he was close to a score. If you want a permanent relationship, look elsewhere. Sheeesh!
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reader, pixiegirls +, writes (23 December 2010):
 There is nothing wrong with sending an occasional text. Just be aware that you may or may not receive a response or be sure that he might extend another invitation out. As long as you know up front what he is willing to give, and not to give, and you are comfortable being casual with him, initiating contact with him is fine.
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reader, pixiegirls +, writes (23 December 2010):
How much communication have you had since the second date? Did you leave off from the second date discussing getting together again, or in any communication you have had since the second date?Regardless of the age, there are some men, some people, who are on dating sites that have no intention of being in a relationship with someone, and the interest is solely in finding someone, or many to just have a physical relationship.The use of "being to busy" is one that is overused. We know deep down, and have seen the proof in the beginning of relationships, that if a man is interested in you, nothing, absolutely nothing, will keep him from finding the time to send you a message or get ahold of you. When someone starts using the "I've been so busy" line, it really means that they have no time to call you. Unless you were okay with continuing to see this man, but not be in any type of committed relationship, I would move on to someone who isn't too busy to call you, and is interested in a relationship with someone.
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reader, FlowerChild911 +, writes (23 December 2010):
FlowerChild911 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your insight.... I welcome any other thoughts or opinions. Do you think he minds an occasional text?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): sounds like this guy is more into a fling he even said it himself. so if you want something serious lose his number.
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reader, Good_Luck_Charm +, writes (23 December 2010):
Dont call him. If he wants to chat he will call you. If he doesnt he probably wasnt looking for someone real in the first place.
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reader, VikkiDec1 +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Well I'm a 20 year old but I believe I can still give u an answer to what I think. Sometimes guys are just so caught up in the single life and tell themselves they do not want to get involved, get hurt, etc. If he is calling you and making the effort to contact you, then he is definately interested. If the guy said you are "hot" then he means it and is attracted to you and is not afraid to show it. If he makes you happy and you enjoy your time together, then take it slow and see what happens. The best relationships start with good friends.
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reader, CJH  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Who knows what he wants? Why not work on what you want and put it to him?
Sounds like it's all gone swimmingly but now stalled so take the bull by the horns and ask him on a third date!
What have you got to lose?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): I'm not to old but if he's telling your your hot he's obviously interested but if he doesn't want to get to involved then he might just want to get into stuff with him, age doesn't matter men will always take a sex appeal
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): okay go for it call him and if he says no then dont worry about it.. tell him u really enjoyed being witth him for the time you did..then let him come to you.. but if he says yes then you know he wants to get with you!!:) hope this helps!:)
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