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writes:I recently connected with a guy. We talk everyday and all night. I knew he had a girl friend and i respected that. I even kept my distance. The other day he insisted that we meet up before we both leave for college so i did. It was amazing. We went to the pool and talked, joked around, and then he kissed me but i didnt pull away, then he wrapped his arms around me. He is a gentleman, he opens doors, and doesnt pressure me into anything. That respect makes me weak for him. Then he's tall dark and handsome, and strong. everything i want. I love him, but i dont know what to do. Do i tell him that i do? Do i just hide them since we are going to diff. colleges and because he has a gf? Please help. He want to spend more time with me, but i don't want it to be about sex/lust. pp.s we have not had sex but sexual things have occured....am i a bad person?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (2 August 2010):
 Good girl,
YOU deserve better! And he deserves a kick in the nuts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow, I’ve heard that you must be careful what you ask for, but I see now it’s very true! Your answers kind of hurt my feeling but they are what I needed and they are very true and I greatly appreciate your honesty. I needed that reality check. Badly! I don't know what I was thinking. I guess I just wanted attention and he was giving it (for one reason). I feel really stupid, and later that night his friend text me. He told me he was thinking about me and rubbing his…… That wasn't a coincidence and it hurt me but I did it to myself so I’m the only one I can blame. Ugh! Why was I so naive and green! Thank you so much for telling me the truth. Someone said "I don't know how you would define a bad person but your actions show you have little self respect, not much respect for commitment, little empathy, and not much remorse for hurting others." But if you knew me, I’m really not that type of person but my actions were not saying different. Thank you! I don't want to make this too long but, I'm listening, and I WILL learn from my mistake.
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (30 July 2010):
 wow everybody said it already. he can't be that good if he's cheating on his girl. plus you're going off to college anyways so meet a cool guy there and leave this one alone.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 July 2010):
You KNOW he's got a girlfriend and you still don't see that what YOU and HE are doing is wrong? Then YES, you are not a good person. That makes you selfish and heartless in my book. And it makes him a selfish cheating horndog.
Dump the guy. If he later on leaves his GF and want to hook up, then maybe there is a chance for you to be with this guy. Though I seriously doubt he is of the faithful kind.
He's a player, not a gentleman.
Good luck.
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reader, Rlp(:  +, writes (30 July 2010):
You need be careful, I think this is very harsh on his girlfriend and makes him a bad boyfriend, but if he isn't happy with his girlfriend you need to talk to him and tell him that he stays with her or you because it isn't fair for his girlfriend and you being messed around, hope this helps
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 July 2010):
He's so respectful, such a gentleman and so amazing that there he was cheating with you on his girlfriend. Are you a bad person? If you continue, you are. You're also very naive if you continue. Because if he cheats on her, he will cheat on you and use you. A gentleman? Far from it.
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