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writes:First, let me give you the background story. I am single and have been for a while. I am not attracted to looks so it is rare when I get a crush on someone. I met this girl at college and we became friends quickly, and at one point she even kissed me, on the cheek. I being a complete fool didn't realize that she liked me. I knew I should of, but I have trouble with relationships. Anyway, here is my problem. She is like the best friend I have even though I like her. I haven't told her because she is going out with another of my best friends which confuses the heck out of me. I met him at college as well although I met him after I meet her and they wound up going out with each other. I still like this girl and I know she still likes me but. . . Well I just do not know what to do. I do not want to hurt anyone but if I do not say anything I will be hurting myself, however, if I tell her I could cause them to break up and hurt the other guy. Then, again she could look at me like I was a jerk trying to steal her and then I'd hurt her. So, what am I supposed to do?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (5 November 2008):
 She is dating one of your best friends. You best stick to letting her be your friend for now. Chances are you will hurt your guy friend if you tell her. This could cause the friendship to end or at least cause damage to the friendship. If she kissed you on the check she wasn't acting improper as she didn't attempt to kiss you in the mouth.
If things don't work out between your two best friends then you might have a chance. Wait it out and if the time presents itself you could tell her but be prepared to accept the fact she may have been kissing your check because she too feels like you are a *Best Friend whom she is really fond of. It is possible that she likes you but not as a potential b/f.
Only time will truely tell. Let the course of events unfold and try to remain the caring friend without complicating the friendships you have with your best friends. If she likes you for more than a friend and her relationship with the other guy changes she will probably let you know. Also be careful that having a more intimate realtionship (bf/gf) won't destroy the friendship with your guy friend. Many choices are often ours to make but some of them were better left at the descretion of others.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, cheekyme  +, writes (5 November 2008):
 Okay so, get her alone, and tell her that there is something that you need to tell her, but your only telling her this to get it off of your mind because its bugging you and you feel you just need to teel her. and say that what ever happens you do not want anything to come between you two.
Then just tell her how you feel, and also make sure you say, "im not telling you this because i want to come inbetween you and your boyfriend, im not telling you this because i want to upset or confuse or hurt you, im not telling you this just for the sake of convosation, im telling you this because what i feel for you is true, and i need to tell you for the sake of knowing that i have done and i then will not live in regret of never telling you. Im so sorry if i have upset you in anyway, im not trying to steal you away, i just need you to no how i feel." Then hopfully she will understand and either tell you how she feels or say she loves her boyfriend and wants to be faithfull to him. Fair enough either way. Then That way you have told her, she knows, and, who konws maybe you two cud get together, and if not at least you will no that you have tried.
=] good luck x
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