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writes:ive been out with a guy that i met in a club, our date was good.now he wants me to go to his house on saturday.what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, janhockeynut  +, writes (21 November 2007):
 Make him take you out first!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your advice, which really helped
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): I feel like if he had any respect for you at all, he would ask you what you wanted to do. Or he would suggest dinner, a movie, a walk, something other than "come to my place Saturday" I honestly think he just wants you to come over for sex. I could see it being different if he were having a get together with some other friends and if that were the case, I'd strongly suggest bringing your friends along. You never know these days what a guy(s) have planned or what kind of person they are. Tell him that you would rather go out. Just keep it simple, you don't owe him anything, much less an explanation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): If the invitation is intended for you to meet his family, I see no reason why not, but if it's intended as an intimate get-together with just the two of you I'd advise you to tell him you'd like to meet his family first. Then when you get to know him better you'll feel safer about it.
Phil
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (1 November 2007):
 Hello.
I think this guy is pushing you to fast to be inviting you to his home, as my friend waterloo sunset has said, this guy could be a rapist or a murderer, you really need to keep meeting this guy in crowded areas for a few months, get to know him better and if you like what you see after a safe period of time then take him upon his offer, it is very dangerous to take people you do not now on face value, and we would not want you to be in any danger, so my answer would be do not go home with him until you are really shaw about him and you feel safe in his presents.
hope this will help you. good luck.
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reader, elliebellie +, writes (1 November 2007):
i think you are taking this too quickly.. slow down before you get hurt. why dont you suggest that instead of going to his house you would prefer to go out for meal or movie. if he gets annoyed than you know hes a bit of a creep......
lol
ellie
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (1 November 2007):
 I agree. Tell him it's too soon.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (1 November 2007):
Sometimes i ask myself who loves sex more.Men or women?As a lady if you are looking for something serious you take it a bit slow.Ignoring cultural differences.If you just want to get physical and just enjoy sex go ahead but don't be surprised when you lose interest in him soon.If you think anything serious can happen between you two i advise you to decline his invitation and suggest a more appropriate meeting place.I hope you can allow me to ask you a question.How long would you wait before you slept with a guy you just met?
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reader, ralph +, writes (1 November 2007):
I would say a lot depends on his age / personality. If he's your age & seems easy going & his friends seem ok - it's ok to call to his house, but for all sorts of reasons I wouldn't stay at his place for another few dates. If nothing else he will respect you more for it! Why not wait another while & see what he's like. If he doesn't take it well that you won't stay after a first date, then don't back down. You're right to get to know him better, & it's not a good sign if he shows disappointment at you saying that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): Seriously dont do it, in my opinion that is way to soon he might well be a really genuine guy but nowadays you never can tell!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): It is way too soon. You dont know him yet and he could be a mass murderer!! Say you fancy going out for a meal and you will pay half. If his house is mentioned just say you want to get to know each other better before you pay him a visit. It is up to you so dont feel forced into doing something that you are not comfortable with. Tell him as it is! Dont pussy foot round things, life is to short.
take care
xx
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