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writes:I think I need some advice. I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for the last two years and he’s the only guy I’ve ever been with. Thing is I’ve been fantasizing all along about sleeping with other guys. My boyfriend is almost perfect, he’s really sweet and loving, gets me lots of little presents etc. and I get really upset if I think of my life without him in it. But I’m moving out of the country in September for college and all I can think about is that he’ll be back home and I can play with other guys. I haven’t done anything yet, and I have no intention of doing anything, at least while I’m in the same city. I know its wrong but I just don’t know what to do...do I break up with him while I go away for the year? I don’t want to but I feel as if I’ve wild oats still to sow.P.s I should probably mention that he's a slight fetish crossdresser and I do fantasize about having sex without the fetish, which isn't often! Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 I think it's only fair to him if you break it off now. You will be miserable if you try to be monogamous, he'll be miserable if/when you cheat on him. I'm sure he is great, but a year is a long time and if you're ALREADY thinking of cheating on him, imagine the temptation when you haven't seen him for months and months and a really cute guy starts showing interest. Be fair to him and don't string him along to break his heart. You're both still young, go have fun.
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reader, Sakuchanz +, writes (5 May 2010):
I agree with CaringGuy. If you think about having fun with other guys chances are you'll end up acting on it. Especially if you'll be away for a year.
I think you need to end it. Or even take a break and do your own thing. Then when the year is up and the fun is over go from there.
He seems like a great guy, but distance tears people apart.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (4 May 2010):
I think this is a sign that your relationship with him has come to an end. If all you can think about when you're away is that there will be other guys out there, then the best thing you can do is end it with your boyfriend and have fun with other guys. Maybe you're just keeping your boyfriend around for comfort more than anything. But understand that once you've ended it there is no going back. You can't expect him to wait a year while you have your fun abroad and then just come back. If you want to have your fun, then go and have it. But end it with your boyfriend permanently and let him move on.
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