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writes:So me and my girlfriend have been a couple for 1 week, and she is my first girlfriend. I've never kissed a girl, had sex, anything. I think I've gotten passed the fear/nervousness of having my first kiss, but my question is: do I ask her or do I just lean in and kiss her? Should I wait for our second date or do it when I see her next?And by ask I mean say something like, "I really want to kiss you." Our second date is a week and a half away, which is why I don't know if I should wait that long. Reply to this Question
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reader, dcgirl15 +, writes (27 July 2013):
Just make your move. If she's your girlfriend, she's already sort of agreed to the kissing part of it. (There are notable exceptions to that rule, but that's the norm.) Do it with some confidence but slowly enough that she can move away if she really doesn't want it.
If you really want to test the waters, you could hug her first, then kiss her forehead, and then move down to the lips. If she doesn't flinch away at any point, she probably won't deny the kiss. And that way it also won't come off as a sneak attack.
Good luck!
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reader, human_male  +, writes (27 July 2013):
 I have a female friend who would say never ask, just do it. "Be the man, Phil!" If you try and she doesn't want to that's ok (and don't force the matter).
But to be honest what strikes me most about your post is you've only been on one date and you're calling her your girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2013): It depends.
Generally, girls don't like the boys who ask, as much as boys who take control. (Have you noticed in school/college that the girls prefer the jerks? That's because the jerks take what they want and make the girl want it too)
As CMMP recommended, wait for the right mood and timing, and then go for it.
And remember, that's a 50-50 shot. You can never predict females. She may decide to play "hard to get" even if she desperately wants you to kiss her. So don't lose confidence, don't get sad or anything like that. Girls don't like boys who give up.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (26 July 2013):
You have to use your best judgment regarding her readiness and the timing. If you ask and she says no it'd probably kill your confidence. So I'd just make my move when the time is right. There's nothing wrong with a kiss on the cheek for the first date, especially when you have no experience with this.
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