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writes: I have naturally long, dark red hair and have never really liked it. Guys seem to like it, and i've been told it's "hot". I'm thinking about dying it dark brown, but i'm not sure whether to or not. Sometimes i think guys are just interested or attracted to me to live out some fantasy about sleeping with a red head. For example, i had a casual thing with a guy and he never said "you're pretty" it was always "hot" now obviously that might not be anything to do with my hair but i'm thinking it might. Another reason is, this same guy has a gf now, who is sort of "girl next door" looking with blonde hair, although it could be out of a bottle ;) but joking aside this girl is the complete opposite to me and he has her as a girlfriend but still wants me sexually, although i'm not going to do anything about that as he's with her. So, i'm thinking maybe if i dye my hair i might attract a guy who isn't just looking to act out some fantasy about getting laid with a redhead. What do guys think about red haired girls? Do they just want them for a sexual thing but not a girlfriend? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): I think with a woman who is "hot" because of other attributes, red hair CAN make her sexier. Probably because it is less common...kinda exotic. But I've seen redheads who were DOGS too. Hair color accentuates other attributes, but it alone does not make a woman sexy or anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe funny thing is i don't dress in revealing clothes or throw myself at people, quite the opposite. I'm really shy especially around guys i like.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 I think it just has more to do with attractive people attracting more people. Meaning they'll tend to attract slime balls and guys who just want sex on top of a few nice ones. Hair color doesn't have anything to do with finding a nice guy, it just has to do with finding all the wrong ones as well. The ones who are just after girls for sex want to obtain the hottest woman they can to have sex with. All it means is that guys think you're hot. It may mean you have to go after the guy you want yourself so you can weed out the losers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): I agree with others on here. Your red hair is hot and sexy and beautiful. please be proud of it. however, for your problem...I think it probably has little to do with your hair color and more to do with the way you might carry yourself, your boundaries and what unconsious messages you are sending out to men. Merely an assumption though but sometimes we ladies don't realize that we send out messages to men even when we think we are trying not to. When I was younger, as in 18-21 i used to get upset that i was attracting men who just wanted sex. But I also realized that I was giving it up too easy, dressing in a suggestive way, having steamy phone conversations and such. As I grew older I learned to change this. At 27, I am educated, sweet, polite, dress very feminine and sophisticated, financially secure and I def don't give up the goods unless after 6months in a committed relatiionship. the calibre of men coming up to me changed as well. The sleazy ones get turned off by my inability to put out. because they are used to easy girls giving up the goods with little effort on their part. I am in a serious relationship now.But before this, I still met a few lame guys, but i always upheld my standards. and they left. Do the same and your situation will change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMaybe it's just me being insecure.
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reader, dmartin89  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 I'm not a guy, but I'm bisexual and I think redheads are absolutely beautiful, so much that I've tried (and failed!) to dye my hair that colour.
I don't see redheads as being more of a sexual object.
Embrace and love your hair, there are so many people that are jealous of it!
Once you dye your hair, it takes a long time to get it back to normal, mine has never gone back!
If you find guys that want you because of you hair, give them a wide birth. Find someone who isn't looking to get their fantasy fix.
There is a guy out there for you!!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (29 October 2010):
 Noooo!! My two most serious relationships have been with redheads :P I read somewhere recently that some scientists say redheads make up less than 2% of the world population and because of recessive genes- they could be nearly extinct by the year 2100... Save the redheads!!
Your hair is not to blame for you attracting guys who are only after sex... blondes and brunettes get that too.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (29 October 2010):
 With regard to your hair, I think you should do whatever you want, but not because you think guys only want red heads for sex. That's not the case. Sure, there are stories about how red heads can be wild girls or "firey" in the sack, but really, people are people and hair doesn't make the person. When I'm looking at a woman, I'm looking at the whole package. That includes personality.
There will always be guys out there looking for their next conquest or trophy, but that doesn't mean all of us are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010): I dyed my hair red, and I love it. I keep getting compliments on it since I did. And as a side-note no one has asked me out because of it ;). It's the guys your finding that only want you for sex, has absolutely nothing to do with your hair color.
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reader, amyxavier +, writes (29 October 2010):
i am a natural red head and have had lots of guys want to date me as a girlfriend i have been happily married for 13 years and was a re head when i met my husband but i have also been dark and am currently blond i dont think guys need to act out there fantasies with hot red heads they obviosly think you are hot any way you should do what you want if you want to dye your hair then go for it there is always the option to go back to your originall colour if you dont like it but do it for you not a guy
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 October 2010):
My girlfriend is a red head, and I really do love her. My ex was a red head, and I loved her, and in fact most of the girls I've ever really liked/fancied have been red heads. So yes, we want red heads for more than just sex. You've just got to pick the right guy.
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