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writes: Are men more likely to put you on a pedastal at the beginning of a relationship if they find you very good looking? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 I don't think it's based on looks.
if a man is with a woman he loves he sees her as the most beautiful perfect thing and he puts her on the pedestal.
it's not a good place to be. my last husband had me on one.... oy when you fall... it's hard.... and it's not your fault.
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (18 February 2013):
Nope not for me, I see women as my equal, she can be WHO'S sexiest woman alive and I still won't put her on a pedestal at least not for looks. If we "click" really well then maybe. If a girl is "out of my league" why should I put her on a pedastal, she chose to be with me, she's not my God to worship, she is my friend/lover/companion. So no.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 February 2013):
 What do you mean ... if beauty helps you get attentions , a better treatment ? Oh yes, there's no denying it, as unfair - and maddening for average looking people - that's how it works. If a beautiful girl trips and takes a nosedive on the pavement, she'll have 20 guys running to help her back on her feet, if it's an ugly one... she'll probably end up filmed and posted on YouTube :).
It's not so terrible, though. Pedestal are for statues. Flesh and bones people do not LIKE to be put on pedestals and be fawned upon for the unreachable Goddess that they are NOT. They want to be liked and accepted for the real people they are, with all their human imperfections.
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (18 February 2013):
 to say no is a bold faced lie.
the paper dropping experiment is very accurate.
If I see a person stranded on the side of the road, I stop to help.
If I see a good looking woman stranded on the side of the road, I accelerate to get there first. It is subconscious and natural.
Would I rather be with a decent looking woman with a good personality? Any day of the week!
However, in the beginning, before the personality is found out, people, MALE AND FEMALE go by looks.
People will say stuff and exaggerate to show themselves to be the better of the group of guys and gals coming after you.
Learn to wade your way through the bs.
The right one will come along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): I put women on a pedastal if they have a really good personality. Their looks can be so so but if there's personality, they're on an unreachable pedastal. And then I don't reach them.
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reader, ihavetoomanythoughts +, writes (18 February 2013):
 As in do the men do everything for a good looking girl? Probably. I remember seeing something on TV where an overweight lady dropped some papers on the floor and not a single man stooped to help her. Then when a thin, model-like lady dropped her papers, all these men rushed to help. They did this a few times and the model-like lady got significantly more help than the overweight lady. But even women discriminate against women based on looks! They did the same thing except the two women walked into a clothing store and the model-like lady got immediate help from the sales lady while the overweight lady got nothing :(But you know, if you're in a relationship your actual personality does eventually come under some scrutiny. So if there's a good looking girl and her man treats her really well at the beginning, he might find that a) she's a ----- and he'll dump her or b) she's actually a really great person and he does actually want to appreciate her. But hey, it works the other way as well. If you're not a bombshell but you're a pretty awesome person to hang around, your boyfriend will appreciate you too.
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