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writes:Okay so im really in love with my boyfriend and we want to have sex. Im scared the condom may break and so is he. He has everything going for him amaazing soccer player, super hot, and smart. He feels like it would be one of those " he had everything and then knocked up some girl" I know condoms are pretty reliable but can anyone tell me if a condom has ever broke with them or someone they know. i guess i just need a few people to say that they rele do work so i get convinced cuz i know i want to do it i just want to be safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2008): There's not really much to be worried about-condoms work 98% of the time :) Just take care.
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reader, daletom +, writes (3 January 2008):
Yes, I have had condoms break. My daughter tells me that she and her husband had a child sooner than planned because a condom broke. Aside from the problem of breaking, folks your age often use condoms incorrectly - and don't realize it until much too late!If you (or your B/F) are not ready to accept the consequences of your sexual activity, you probably aren't really ready to add sex to your relationship.
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reader, x-Mischief-x  +, writes (2 January 2008):
 well im glad that everything was good for you xx
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reader, alwaysndforever +, writes (2 January 2008):
alwaysndforever is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni did it. i had sex with him twice today. both condoms did not break and it was rele good too=] i love him so much thanks for all your advice but i think i can take it from here. and btw he would never leave me if something like that happened...and i would gladly spend the rest of my life with him.
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (1 January 2008):
 it is safe but not completely the main reason why the condoms brake is because
1) you havent holded the top of the condom while you were puttiing it on to get rid of air bubbles
2) making a hole in it with nails
condoms have never broke from me and i am young
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reader, ladycharm +, writes (1 January 2008):
 okay you can use a condo but incase i woud go on the pill as well ts much safer that way i hoped this has helped
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (1 January 2008):
 Just to let you know ive been on the pill since i was 15 and i havnt gained a pound and my depression is not linked to my pill there are lots of types and its stops you worrying if and when a condom breaks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): heya i'm 15 and have been having sex for about a year, i've only had a condom split once but that was one of the non branded ones from the store which we only used once, so my advice is only buy the branded ones. Have fun! xo
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reader, loverman86 +, writes (1 January 2008):
 condoms have a 98% chance of working that means if u had sex 100 times with a condom the condom would only break twice, very small chance of it not working, ok and if u have had sex before and u used a condom then, why are u worrying cuz u know they work then dont u
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reader, Passthrough +, writes (1 January 2008):
 I had 2 condoms break (of about 50-60) and I switched to a non-latex artifical trojan Supra, which are supposed to be stronger, and had 1 of those break as well.
In short, condoms are not perfect. Best way to not get pregnant is not to have sex. Luckily (in this sense) my girlfriend at the time was on birth control. We had also both been tested, and faithful.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 Sorry, I did not read your addendum before I was finished writing. Not every pill makes you depressed or gain weight, you need a new doctor. Condoms are not the safest method for avoiding pregnancy. You should ask you Mom to help you find out what method would be best for you.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (31 December 2007):
You should be ready to make a commitment before you have sex, because if things do go the way nature intended, what you are proposing to do could create a baby. Is he a person that you could picture being tied to for the rest of your life through a child together? He already sounds like he will bolt and run if things go wrong by what he has already said to you. He's putting the responsibility on you to figure out how to prevent this because he is already said, Hey! Don't count on me! So, are you willing to go though this on your own at the age of 14?
Sorry, but if you are asking strangers on the net about contraception, you aren't sure about the facts, then you are still too young to go ahead with this. You should always use a barrier method, as well as one other method. The condom prevents STI's, but other methods are more effective at preventing pregnancy, like the pill. In order to get the pill and for it to be effective, you need to go to a Doctor and be on it for a few months in advance. I have had the experience of having a condom break three times myself, and it's pretty scary waiting to find out if you are pregnant or not. And I was far older than you are and with my future husband.
If you are old enough to ask your Mother for her advice on this matter without being worried or scared about what she will say, then you will be old enough to start considering having a sexual relationship. Slow down! Very few people your age are having sex, in fact, most people aren't! Most people are in their late teens when they lose their virginity! Wait until you are 100% sure that you are with the man that you want to spend your life with, it will mean so much more to you. It will make your first time something that will want to look back on in the years to come, not something that you want to forget.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): hi, they do work. People can tell you that you are to young to have sex but no1 besides yourself can decide that. i first had sex when i was quite young and i regreted it, although my situation was sligtly different, i had been with my boyfriend for 3 months only and he wasnt willing to wear a condom, i had lack of respect for myself and went ahead with it anyway. if your boyfriend is willing to use one then he must have respect for you which is good. The pill is ok but it does have alot of side effects, it also takes the responsilbility away from the male then and sometimes they respect you less because they havent got any responsibilities. i suggest that if it breaks you should go to the pharmacy and ask for an explanation of the morning after pill. this is only a one off pill to ensure you dont get pregnant, just like any other contraceptive it is not 100%. One last thing is that condoms usually only break if they are out of date so check the date carefully. I have been in a relationship for a year now which is a steady relationship and one hasnt broken for us. whatever you decide just make sure you are certain, be carefull, take care hunnii, emily x
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (31 December 2007):
 Hey sweetie condoms do work but sometimes they do break thats why you cant always just trust condoms. but here is the thing i know your young and you will not listen to anyone when they tell you to wait so if you do have sex when your boyfriend is ready to cum have him take his penis out of you and jerk it off the rest of the way that way he is not in you if it breaks another thing you can do is go to walmart and they have a birthcontroal ring that you stick in you that way you are double pertected. Becareful!
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reader, alwaysndforever +, writes (31 December 2007):
alwaysndforever is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know im young but i lost my virginity a few months ago. i dont know why i didnt even think about getting pregnant with a condom then but of course we used one. I amd complelty in love and i know that we are ready. comming from a "kid" you probly think i dont know what love or being ready is like but i promise you i do. I cant go on the pill because a few dr;s have told me it either makes you gain a lot of weight or get very depressed..sometimes both. Im really happy right now especially with my bf and i dont want bc to ruin that. I know i want to have sex with him...i just want to make sure that im doing everything i can to be safe with a condom. =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2007): why not try the pill which is 99.9% accurate- aswel as the condom if you wish to be extra safe!, the condom does work and i have never knew of a case which it hasnt in me and my friends, pregnancys are usually caused by missing the pill/ getting 'caught in the moment. if it does split you can just get the morning after pill , free from pharmasis.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (31 December 2007):
 Only once have I spoken with someone that has had a condom break.
Usually if this is going to be a problem it is when an unapproved lubricant is used with a condom which starts to break down the latex.
Condoms are subjected to many tests so they know this kind of thing will not be a problem. Check out the link.
http://www.justrubbers.com/info/latex_condom.html
However, at your age you should not even be considering sex. Sex is something that should only even be considered by young adults since you basically start trashing your childhood from that point on.
There are so many responsibilities you need to take on when you start down the road of sex.
My daughter is 22yrs. old and is still a virgin.
As such she hasn't had to start pap smears or pelvic exams, both which she knows she will have to start when she becomes sexually active. She, however, says she will not start that till she is married, probably to the guy she has been seeing for the last two years.
The point I am making is, you only have your childhood for a few short years. Why throw it away. Enjoy it while you have it. You can always look forward to sex and have it for many many years. You only have your childhood for a few short years. Once it is gone it is gone.
I would gladly give up sex to get my childhood back.
I don't know why anyone would want to throw their's away.
Now go be a kid while you still can. Doc
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (31 December 2007):
Ive used them many times and so have many of my friends and none of us have got pregnant they are safe but no contraception is 100% safe so there is always a risk but i think you will be fine but if your really worried go on the pill as well. But please dont do anything your not 100% ready for your still young.
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