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writes:Why do all the guys i know say they like but just want to use me for sex? Then the guys i do like will like my friends or just stay long enough to get wat they want then wen they do they stop talking to me until they want something else? Are all guys like that just use u and then treat u like garbage? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2011): Some of the aunts here are fundamentally misunderstanding the situation with teen boys and girls. Most boys don't start out jerks and learn respect later. Most boys start out respectful and gradually learn to be jerks. Girls spend their teens and 20s retraining boys not to respect them.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (30 September 2011):
 if you are giving it to the boys, they are going to take it. don't be easy ,have self respect for yourself. you will have plenty of regrets later in life if you don't stop.wait for that special guy to come in your life ,the one you cant live without. these boys don't respect you they are just getting what they can get.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 September 2011):
 They are treating you like garbage but more importantly YOU are treating you like garbage. Wise up chickie, this is your only life, take care of yourself.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 September 2011):
 They do when girls LET THEM.
Stop being sexual with these boys.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (29 September 2011):
 Answer to your question, no not all guys are like that, i know it is hard not to judge all boys by your own personal expierence but everyone is different.
Oh yeah, and HoneyComb, just because someone is young does not make them thick and unable too start a relotionship, and just because you turn 16 makes you automatically ready for sex? its all about mental growth not just pyhsical.
Anyway, you need to be sure, that you love someone before you sleep with them, and a connection in a relotionship isn't just about being attracted to them sexually but also being attracted to them mentally. Just wait untill you meet someone who really gives you butterflys and who's personality goes perfectly with yours. After all you are only young so be willing to wait untill you find someone really worth waiting for. A big rule is not to be easy, don't go out with a boy just because they ask you out and they might look kinda fit. Make sure you build up a good friendship with them first.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): You are giving it up way too easily. The boys know they can get what they want from you when they want it...it is on their terms not yours.
Stop doing sexual favors for anyone and everyone who shows interest in you. No hooking up with anyone for at least SIX MONTHS. If any guys are still hanging around you at the end of that time, they are probably genuinely interested in you...not just interested in you putting out.
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reader, tinybubble  +, writes (29 September 2011):
You're having sex with BOYS. Little immature boys who still don't know what they're doing. Don't expect little boys to act like matured men because they will never do unless you wait for another 10 years. Now,I'm not saying that you should instead have sex with men.God,no.I'm saying that at your age, it's too early to have sex. When you grow up, you'll experience great sex with matured men who will love and care for you and they won't treat you like trash.As of now, I assure you that you definitely don't deserve the way you are treated. Do yourself a favor and save yourself for that man who will really treat you like a queen in the future.
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reader, HoneyComb +, writes (29 September 2011):
Fact: you're under 16 and having sex with little boys who should be having wet dreams instead.
Fact: little boys don't care about relationships. They'll care about relationships in 10 years, when and if they grow up.
Hello? Are you listening?
Stop having sex ... set goals for yourself. Study hard, work on your personal growth, and do things you can be proud of.
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reader, landomando +, writes (29 September 2011):
No. you give it up to easy thats why. If he likes you then wait a while. Dont just have sex with him right away. u have to wait like months to see if he really likes you...
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