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*col616
writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 5 months now but lately he has seemed really distant. He rarely talks to me anymore, when we walk together he doesn't even try to hold my hand, and then last night after talking on the phone for almost and hour he didnt say he loved me all he said was night and then hung up. Am I over reacting, I am his first girlfriend but I'm worried maybe something is going on? So what do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, crispap +, writes (27 October 2009):
Well you have your answer. He wants to date other girls. He told you straight out that if she says yes and is available to him that he would date her and prefer her to you. He has a lot of nerve I think to say that to you and hurt you like that. Obviously he doesn't consider you his girlfriend just one of the girls he dates so why would you love someone like that? He is not worth it and is playing with you.
The only thing you can do is let him go. Don't allow him to use you like that until the other girl is single. Ignore him, don't talk to him. Maybe he will not have any luck and lose interest with the other girls, realize that you were better, miss you and want you back. But even if that happens I still suggest you don't take him back so easily. He will have to prove his feelings are real for you and stop jerking you around.
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reader, bcol616 +, writes (27 October 2009):
bcol616 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I talked to him but now I have a new dilemma, i asked him what's been going on why he's been so distant, he says its because he's been checking out other girls, I asked if he'd rather be with one of them he says if they liked him and where single, I told him i think we need a little break from each other but i don't know how to proceed I love him and don't want to lose him but if this other girl becomes single will he leave me for her? i cant live with these indecision
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reader, bcol616 +, writes (25 October 2009):
bcol616 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice I'll let you all know how it works out
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 October 2009):
You need to talk to him. Sit him down and ask him why he's suddenly started acting this way. There is something causing this, but it may not be cheating. Ask him and find out.
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reader, crispap +, writes (25 October 2009):
The only thing you CAN do is just ask him! I mean if you are in a relationship you should be able to talk about anything bothering you. Tell him you are concerned that he has been acting "different" and why..but without showing too much emotion or insecurity. Don't let him know that you are scared of losing him just that you are feeling left out and don't like it. If he doesn't give you a straight answer or continues acting the same, just act the same right back to give him a taste of his own medicine! Ignore him for a while, go out with other friends, avoid calling him..that should get his attention..Let HIM chase YOU!
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