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male
age
36-40,
*obby B.
writes:So yesterday I was looking through my girlfriends email account and her post on one of these type of sites saying "how to get rid of your boyfriend" And It bothered me I didn't saying anything at first then se said it was nothing she said it out of anger. So I said alright I understand because we had a somewhat of an argument so I let that go because I know she really love me (from what I was told). So we were going to a restaurant we ate talked I had a good time just being with her and so did she. After that we went to her friends house got some drinks and a couple hours later she just did a 360 out of nowhere and I wasn't the only one who was realizing this. So she told me she wanted to go home with an attitude I asked her what was wrong and she wouldn't tell me so I gather something to get ready to leave then all of a sudden she goes back in her friends house an left me outside so I got her to come with me so I can take her home and she just started talking a whole bunch of stuff that was non sense saying she meant some what of what she typed on a site like this. What confuses me about this girl..is that she has no legitimate reason why she lashed out the way she did. I try to talk to her and reason with her she wouldn't say anything. Sometimes I feel like I'm way mature in the relationship because whenever there's a problem with her I point stuff out an talk about it but with her she doesn't because she really has no reason. She just has an anger issue and been through alot of stuff in her past that effects her this way. Another thing I hate is when we do have problems she lacks communication which makes me feel like she just acts like that or wants to break up with me just she can go clubbing every weekend, probably have sex with multiple guys or just do things she know she shouldn't because she has two kids. One day she really love me alot and we'll have good convos and have a relaxed day and then that same Fay she does a 360 and ends up not loving me anymore. I feel like she likes to play games a lil too much saying things she don't mean then take it back or say things that would piss me off just for the fun of it then apologize after. I just wish she would be 1 person not love me for one minute then the next en up hating me for no reason. She is bipolar an I can deal with it but this happens probably every week not one week here we cab be happy with out her saying anything mean or disrespectful..not 1. I admit she does act like a kid on some certain situations for someone who has more "experience" than me. I love this girl alot but this emotional roller coaster is going to make me want to be distant from her if she keeps up with it and that's the last thing I want or she wants to go through only cause we really love each other but she has a problem of starting and not realizing everything is her fault we go through nonsense without explanation she just runs away from the situation and apologizes the next day an goes back to being lovey dovey. I just need someones opinion on how do I deal with a situation like this because I've never met a girl who acts like she does or say things to me that would hurt me because there's plenty of females who would really want to start a relationship with me because I know how to be a good boyfriend, be faithful, loyal an have long term relationships but I don't want anyone but her. Even her friends see I'm a good man but she doesn't realize it till she ends up losing me..
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (1 September 2010):
 At the point where you felt the need to go through her email account the relationship was over. What you found when you did that is largely irrelevant. The action of checking up means there is a lack of trust or stability in the relationship. I appreciate that your girlfriend may have bipolar disorder, but I sense that you are not signing up to a lifetime of roller-coaster drama with this person. You wish she was the one good person, but that is idealistic and does not reflect what happens during the course of the relationship. There is no reason why you shouldn't walk away if this causes you distress. You will lose all your self respect if you keep coming back for more emotional punishment from a girl who is on and then off unpredictably.
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