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writes:dear cupid i have a problem. what does it mean when he wants to end everything because "i cant get close to anyone in a relationship because i find one little thing that drives me crazy and i completely explode i really am probably the worst boyfriend ever." and "your better off without me". "if its over its over we shouldn't make a big deal of it" (i got upset he could let everything go without talking about it) and "i guess this is goodbye." its not like this is a little thing. he was my bestfriend and other half for two years before we switched things to romantic about a year and a half ago so about four years all together. we have only ever dated for two months straight and three months we went without talking. we were working things out and BAM he goes four days without a word after one little bity insignifigant arguement. then he comes out with all that? i told him i was done with everything and i was not going through it again and we were done. ive never done that i always try to work things out. please help. i went out with another guy and came home and laid on the couch and i missed him so much i could almost feel him next to me. we never spent much time together and i was always miserable but i really miss him. thats my heart and soul. ive never felt anything for anyone else and i gave up my party girl life over hte last six months for him. he was just telling me he wanted a place in my life and he wanted to be with me and cared. weve never even slept together. i think he thinks it will complicate things. please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Strawberry Fields  +, writes (22 June 2009):
If he had the heart to tell you that this the end, then it means that (to quote Greg Behrendt) he's just not that into you anymore. He may care for you still, but for whatever reason, he doesn't want to be with you anymore. A guy who's disappeared and gone cold even after you were working things out is a guy who's an a**hole. I know this oversaid but there is a reason why people still say this, it's because it's true: you deserve better. I know he was your bestfriend and this may be devastating to you especially since the fact that you really do love him. It hurts, I know. But other than leaving him and moving on? There are only crappy options. Show him that you can do this alone (even when you can't) because if there's life before him, there's life after him. He'll probably even start to miss you someday, but for your own sake don't count on that because you should be focusing on people who really make you happy instead. Good luck
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (22 June 2009):
 maybe he's already found someone else and isn't sure how to tell you?
perhaps he doesn't want to be tied down anymore he probably wants the single life.
i mean he may not like a habbit of yours and that he is really that petty that it get's to him that much that he has to end it.
but i mean from what he has said it sounds like a long time coming really.
he clearly doesn't think you're the one for him.
him saying he cannot get close to anyone i think is just an excuse to get out of the relationship because he doesn't want to be with you anymore and probably doesn't know how else to tell you really.
if he is really that petty then you are better than that and definately deserve better!!
hope this helps.
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