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writes:I been talking to this guy for a couple of months.he has really been nice he never made a move on me or anything. when im alone i can call him no matter what time it is.we eventually had sex a week ago and it was horrible he came within 3min and i told him that i did not enjoy but we can continue to be friends since that day he has not called or answered his phone when he sees me he goes the other way help me out .did i mess with his pride or should i feel like that was all he wanted? let me know thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk as soon as he exploded he stopped and i ask him was he done and he said yes and smile i became upset and told him thats not fair he wasted my time and that i will call him when i get home i apologized before i left and he said ok so when i got home i called he picked up and said he will call me when he awakes and bever did ! And my friend told me that he probably does think that i told everyone but i didnt and i call everyday and get no answer he called me this morning for the first time and hung up am sorry for what i said and i want my friend back ! Thank you all
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (25 September 2010):
I would like to weigh in on one factor - I agree with the points made already, but I feel they left out an important truth that should not be left out.
You should NOT lie or exaggerate under any circumstances to sooth or placate the ego of a man. If he sucks in the sack, use that as an oppertunity. You can access a great deal of pleasure teaching and training him to remedy that!
The real trick to this thorny situation is finding a gentle and non offensive way to tell him the truth. If he came too quick, you could try something like 'that was really promising... maybe we could spend some time working on your endurance though.'. If he's just too small, it's not taboo to ask for manual or oral stimulation in addition to intercourse. My wife likes it when I reach down with one hand while inside her - the combined sensations never fails to drive her over the edge. If he's got both problems, it may be prudent to ask him to get you off before intercourse, so he's not entirely done and finished when it's your turn. Never forget the golden rule - treat others the way you would have them treat you. Also never forget the golden rule about sex and dessert - 'it's not over until everyone gets their cookies'.
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reader, Beingblack  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 Well after a couple of months of not making a move, you need to ask yourself how the sex came about. Was it a joint decision, or did you decide to reward him for his sweetness and niceness? If he wasnt pushy, what makes you believe he only wanted sex. He's on the run because you deflated his male ego.
You have to realise that many men of all ages have extremely fragile egos. You say the sex was horrible, and you told him that you didnt enjoy it. That is not exactly what he wanted to hear. Imagine if someone said that to you. How would you feel? He's probably imagining that you are running around telling everyone what a lousy lover he is.
In these cases there is no easy way back. He is embarrassed to speak to you now, you can probably never have sex with him again, as he will feel you are judging him, and the easy friendship you both shared has already left the building.
If you feel that this friendship is worth fighting for, then a couple of general 'hello' texts to his cell would be a good idea. If you can get him talking to you again that would be a good start. And remember that telling anyone straight out that you didnt enjoy sex with them will probably lead to a similar reaction.
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reader, CuteBabe +, writes (25 September 2010):
 Mmmmmm think you should tell us exactly what you guys spoke about!!! that really matters and is important in order to know if it's his pride that was hurt or he got what he wanted.. So what did you say and what did he say all from the top!
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