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writes: I know I risk sounding naive in this question, but I need some answers really badly. Ok, my problem mainly involves me, my best friend and a boy (I say boy, but he's 18 nearly 19 so this classes him as a man). Im about to turn 16 and have a boy mate who is almost 19. We've be friends for about 15 months and I like him a lot. He texts me a lot and is generally really really flirty. He is my best friends ex and she has warned me against him so many times - not just because he's her ex, but because she knows first hand what he's like. She's told me he's the type of guy that flatters girls and sweet talks them into bed. He did that with her, although she didn't see it straight away, she realised eventually and ended the relationship there. I mentioned she's warned me loads of times and she's even said she would fall out with me if I didn't stay clear of him because she cares about me that much and doesn't want to see me hurt - I don't want to lose her as shes the best friend anyone could wish for. I know he's bad for me. I know what he's like. I know he's not worth my time. I kmow all this, but here's my problem: despite all the warnings and knowing its wrong, I can't stop myself from talking to him, texting him and being around him!!! I know I seem stupid, naive and whatever (Im not, though) but I just don't know what it is. I can't leave him alone. What can I do?!?!Thanks xx
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (31 July 2008):
 why do us girls love bad boys? because they are a challenge and we think that we can change them. Unfortunately these guys will never change so don't go thinking your love for him is special.
You know what will happen.
Go for him..get hurt..dump. AND lose a best friend.
Sorry to say but no guy is worth it.
You have a very good friend and you need to hold on to her.
Besides..if you were a good friend, you shouldn't be dating any of your friend's exes either.
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reader, xlittleredcutiex  +, writes (31 July 2008):
You are just going to have to go for it.
I was always like that,friends warning me off the wrong kind of guy but i never listened either.
I went with him, slept with him within a week (I'm not usually the type of girl to just sleep with someone after a week),he charmed me into bed then i never heard nothing again and didnt even acknowldge me when i saw him out with his friends.
It really hurt but ive learned from it and will never do it again yet i'm glad i did it as it was a learning curve. I think you just have to go for it cos you'll probably regret it more if you dont do anything.
Just avoid having sex with him try and make him wait cos then you will see what he actually wants.
keep us updated,hope ive been of some help :),take care x
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reader, xray2112  +, writes (31 July 2008):
What can you do? LISTEN TO YOUR GIRLFRIEND!!! You're not naive, you're not even 16. I was your age once and I know all about how hard it is to break up and all those other good things. But do you know what? He's the one who's going to dump you and not give you a second thought. He's the type of guy who will try very, very hard to get you into bed, and after he does, and then grows tired of you, the first pretty face he sees is your replacement. And if he doesn't get you into bed, he'll give up and find someone he can. Don't lose your best friend. If cares about you as much as you say she does, she is to be treasured. When he dumps you, who will you have to turn to? Who will be the to ease your pain? It's hard, but drop him and IGNORE his every move. You'll find that out of sight out of mind is true and everyday will be easier than the one before. Remember...out of sight, out of mind. NOT absence makes the heart grow fonder. Hang onto your friend my dear. You are going to meet a ton of real nice guys.
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reader, tryin2helpu +, writes (30 July 2008):
 okay, well i have a similar problem, i'm only 14 though, and i really can't stay away from this guy, we text alot, and he went out with my best friend,*(but they broke up) and she says stay away, he'll hurt you, and of course i get amd at her and stuff, but i realized she's right. guys like that are bad news, there selfish and aren't gonna change over nite. if you think you won't get hurt then go for it, but keep your guard up, he sounds like the kidna guy thats a player
Keep me Posted
xoxo
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