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writes:This is a very big problem and I need help. When I was about 3 years, I fell into a pot of hotwater and it affected my left leg, I mean a scar and when I was about 10 years, a dog bit me on my right leg ankle so I also have a scar. I am a very pretty girl, my body is fresh and everything but I never wear skirt above my knee and people used to wonder thinking I just like long skirts and jeans and also even if I wear gown or skirt, I usually wear tights or nets. I've met a lot of guys wanting to marry me and really like me but my fear is I may never get married because of that scar they havent seen and It's been depressing for 19 years. I'm 19 now in college. What do I do cos no matter what good things are happeneing in my life, I'm still not happy deep within me, I feel I'm just here cos I'm alive then die afterwards. I am so depressed and what kills me is that I carry this all on my own, who wants to tell even the best friend oh I have this scar and so on? Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): you shouldn't be ashamed or afraid to tell your best friend about your scars. that's what friends are for!It's understandable that you feel uncomfortable showing them to everyone. however, you shouldn't. if you don't hve confidence in yourself it'll be much harder to make others feel good around you and confide in you.so just be yourself and be positive and confident. :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys but also wanna add that we all know that Burn scars are much different than ordinary scars like cuts, surgery and so on, That's why I'm depressed about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your advice, yeah it's hard but what do I do as long as I'm still alive. It's easier to say and not do, It's easier for one to say I dont care what others say or do, I can survive on my own but that's suffering and so hard, I just have never told anyone about this only my parents know and thats why I feel so insecure around them, they just think I'm shy, I'm not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): hi sweety, i know how you feel. I compete horses professionally and have various scars all over my body. i usued to let it worry me until i met a really great guy who is toatally comfortable with me and my body. A very good friend of mine has two huge scars one from heart surgey and the other from an operation on a broken arm, shes married with three kids. Show your legs off and be proud! the right guy will love you regardless.
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reader, KingLeo +, writes (2 December 2007):
 You should stop being afraid. I knew I girl in highshool that had severe water burns on her chest from a childhood accident. she didnt have much option to cover up so she had learned to look past her injuries. Part of that was she started wearing low cut shirts and wearing what she wanted. There were those who stared, but none of her close friends cared about her scars and she even started dating a guy who found her scars fascinating. What I found most amazing (and attractive) about her was the level of confidence she had and how beautiful she looked wearing what she wanted. Beauty is in ones self perception and it shows. Love yourself and others will love you.
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reader, 2confused137 +, writes (2 December 2007):
 Ok so i have some scars on my leg and actually a fairly large one on my lower leg. This is my theory show off what you have, dont be so insecure about it. If people dont like you for who you are and how you look that's their problem.If guys ask you to marry them becuase they love you and you love them do it. Scares dont matter in love. LET THEM LOVE YOU. Be yourself it will turn out for the better. Everything happens for a reason!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answer but It's just so hard, I'm getting older and that's just the depressing side of it.
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reader, bqagirl2692 +, writes (2 December 2007):
 You are letting your past hold you back from living and enjoying life. You have to close that door and throw away that key soon. Good people dont pay any mind to the scar that you have. Everyone has at least one scar on their body. Hey, we all had bad luck at least once in our lives. Sooner or later your going to have to realize that the scar that you have is just a mark and it does not represent who you are as a person. Your young and you dont want to waste your teenage years over some mark you got when you were a kid. Cheer up sweetie!
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