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*zzygurl
writes:Me and a guy suppose to be going to the movies but he didn't come pick me up from my house, he told me he would come and we already made plans, I'm already dressed waiting for him but he didn't show up... He didn't even text me or call to tell me he wasn't coming, what should I do?, I don't want to talk to him anymore I feel hurt
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (9 June 2013):
 Unless there was a genuine emergency of the type where he is, say, in a coma, his behaviour is unforgivable. If he did just stand you up then you should never see or talk to him again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2013): Don't worry about this jerk. You don't deserve to be treated this way. You sound like a nice and lovely woman. Just be thankful you haven't been dating him to long. Its done move on. Don't take it personal. For every bad man out there you will find ten good ones.
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (9 June 2013):
 It seems that courtesy and manners are slowly dieing in today’s society even with all the modern communication systems we have at our disposal!?
Be it that you’ve known him only 3 weeks you now know a little bit more about him when it comes to texting or calling you and breaking a date!?
Short of him being in an accident or his family home burning down, I wouldn’t give him this much importance and chalk this down to experience, as what some people say and do are two different things.
Take Care – CAA
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2013): Darling he doesn't have any respect for your time, your effort and most of all to you.
I'ld say, Its a MUST forgetting him. there's no excuses. Please. Don't even give him a second chance, its so disrespectful.
You may forgive him, but don't forget the bad experience you had with him. its a sign, his not worth it.
Your still young and the world still goes round and round.
You maybe hurt for now, but it will pass.
P.S Forget him Pls..
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (9 June 2013):
Hi there. From what you said in your reply to another poster here, you have been dating him for 3 weeks?
And so it wasn't a very first date, was it?
As you both had already made plans for the movies, it is possible that something happened to stop him coming to see you.
He could have had a car accident.
There could have been some family problem, or a member of his family being rushed to hospital.
These kinds of situations, would certainly prevent him from thinking clearly enough to call you to tell you what had happened.
I am of course, talking about an emergency of some sort, which always happens totally unexpectedly, and can't be foreseen.
All that you can really do now, is to just wait and see if he does eventually call you to explain what happened.
Unfortunately, you have no other choice.
Give him a week or two to get back to you, and if he doesn't, well then it might be time for you to move on with your life - without him.
But first, just let's see what happens.
There could be a very good explanation, which will make perfect sense.
Just give it some time, and then decide.
Give it a timeframe - of say up to one month at the most - before making your final decision.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (9 June 2013):
 Very low class of him...unless there was some kind of emergency.
Do not contact him, ever. An apology is only valid if there was some extreme medical emergency and he contacts you at the first available opportunity. Face to face isn't necessary (or desirable) in my opinion. It suggests he is far more important to you than he should be and it gives him the chance to read you. A stoney silence on the other end of the phone is far more disconcerting.
His conduct is an insult, but it wouldn't hurt me. It would simply lower him.
Right this one off. Don't speak to him or about him to anyone else. He no longer exists. Thankfully people this low are few and far between.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2013): He owes you an apology and he owes you one to your face. If there was an emergency, the least he could have done is call you and let you know he couldn't make it.
I'm so sorry you feel hurt. If he sends a text message, do not respond to it. He must come to you and give you a personal apology and explanation.
If you feel he is giving a lame excuse; or it was something you don't feel was important enough to cancel a date, don't bother talking to him anymore.
Unless someone died or he had an accident on the way, he still could have called to tell you he couldn't make it.
Please don't feel too bad. These things happen sometime.
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reader, izzygurl +, writes (8 June 2013):
izzygurl is verified as being by the original poster of the question He hasn't texted or called me yet... I've known him for like 3 weeks now
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 June 2013):
 Has he at the very least apologized? If not, just forget about him. If he lacks the decency to tell you that he will not be there, then he quite clearly does not need to be in your life.
How well do you know him? If he is a new acquaintance, best to forget about it. If he is someone you've known for some amount of time, only you can decide whether he deserves your forgiveness.
I hope that helps.
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