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writes:Something bad has recently happened in my life and I'm hoping somebody here could maybe help. I was with a guy for about a year and a half. Him and I shared a large group of friends and all of us were really close friends. I know it sounds corny, but this time was the happiest I've really ever been in life. I had a good boyfriend and a lot of great friends, something I've never had before.Well...my boyfriend and I broke up because of this girl in our friend group. She was flirting with him and talking with him inappropriately and trying to basically get with him behind my back, and my boyfriend let it happen and flirted back sometimes. I don't know if you can necessarily call it cheating but I felt very betrayed by both of them, so we broke up.Now she has basically taken my place and nobody in the group really talks to me or anything anymore. The girl absolutely hates me now and her and my boyfriend are still friends, and everybody else is still friends with her and it's like nobody really cares what happened to me. I'm the one who kind of got kicked out of the group.I don't understand how all of this happened and I'm really confused. Did I make the right decision to break up with him? I've never been through something like this. How can I get over this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2013): You can never know a person truly I've found, unless they're your best friend/ significant other for ten years maybe - people will often prove themselves to be s**ts and just horrible, nasty,cruel and heartless b*st*rds- whatever you thought of them or how much you trusted them... As for your bf, he completely overlooked how much it would hurt you going behind your back ( a flaw of any cheater) Persuing another girl- the girl has NO reason to have any resentment towards you, she is the ultimate b**ch for unflinchingly betraying and stabbing you in the back, she's most probably been slandering you to these people- but if they can't see through her, you are better off without them, seriously. These were never friends, just acquaintances, they don't care for you or anyone truly, they have no loyalty or compassion or decency, think of it as a blessing in disguise- who wants to waste their lives with people like that? You deserve better...When you meet the decent people/ person you'll probably be sitting in your rocking chair with, you'll know! Ive met my best friend that i know ill still know when im 80! Take up a sport, hobby and explore your own wonderful potential and scr*w these bland, sheeplike wastes of space! You're am Individual, be true to yourself and don't waste another thought on these people ! :) xxx
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 June 2013):
 It might feel horrible right now, which is completely understandable, but look at the situation and think about whether it truly could have been the wrong decision.
They act as though they don't care, perhaps those aren't the type of friends you want in your life. Most importantly, your boyfriend was flirting with another girl who clearly wanted to try and steal him away from you, which apparently he has allowed, all too willingly. Is that the kind of man you want to be with?
In my honest opinion, I think this might have been a very good decision. The hurt will fade and you will find someone else, someone better and you will make better friends who you can trust to support you and have your back.
I hope that helps.
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