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writes:Ok I'm 28 years old with two children. I have been married for 5 years. Me and my husband started to have marital problems during my last pregnancy. I started to tell my physician things in my marriage. He started off by asking me personal questions about my marriage before I told him personal things. He covers his questions up by saying he was thinking of me and wondering if I am ok at times. He delievered my baby and till this day I still see him. It has been 5 years now and he still seems to be so curious. He asks me to tell him detail by detail things about my husband and I. He tells me about his relationship with his wife. He is nice and all but very curious. He remembers my work place and asks all the time about it. He really keeps up with me out of all the hundreds of other patients. I seriously catch him staring at me a lot. I saw him at the movies and he was so busy looking at my body up and down that I became very nervous. He has never disrespected me but all the private questions and stares make me so nervous. I can't explain it but is it my fault? Did I talk too much to make him this curious? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 February 2008):
 If you're uncomfortable with your physician, it's time to find a new one. If there is something 'off' about him for you, then he is not the doctor for you.
You don't need to explain why you're leaving his practice to anyone if you don't want to. Might I suggest you might be more comfortable with a woman as your physician?
Also, if you were reporting 'marital problems' to your doc, he may have been concerned about spousal abuse and has been keeping a close eye on you to make sure you weren't a victim. But that's just a guess.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): Hi Hunny
Change doctors his questions are not for your health but for his pleasure believe me I no many doctors and they are not in anyway like this and if my cute little doc asked me really personal questions even though he is a friend now I would still pop him one and the funny thing is he knows not to mess with me after all the crap ive had over the yrs, So sweetheart this doc is getting off on you and he fancys the arse off you so get yourself another doc TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Dawnie  +, writes (23 February 2008):
 He certainly sounds interested in you. It would be easier to change doctors as far as you are concerned especially as he makes you feel nervous. Good luck.
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reader, SamuraiRick +, writes (23 February 2008):
 Classic sexual tension here. He definitely wants you. Question is do you want him?
If you don't, then the easy thing to do is change doctors.
But if you do want him...thats a whole other ballpark. But it sounds like you want him too, but don't want to admit it. I advise caution.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (23 February 2008):
Sounds like your doctor has a little thing for you. He may be a doctor but he's still a man. They can't help where their eyes go sometimes. As long as he's not crossing the line, I say smile and take it as a compliment... then back off the personal discussions in order to keep the proper boundaries in place. He'll take the hint. If it really makes you uncomfortable, try another doctor.
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reader, Aylarsh +, writes (23 February 2008):
 This is not your fault at all. You should change Physicians and go to a different doctor. Go straight to him and address him about this. If he denies it then it's alright go straight and ask himto refer you to a new doctor. Let him know you like him as a person and will continue talking to him if you meet up coincidentally. I hope I helped, if you ave any questins feel free to contact me!Good luck Love!3
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (23 February 2008):
 That must be trully uncomfortable. I would suggest changing doctors, because it seems to me that this guy would like to deliver an unhealthy prognosis for your marriage. Please be careful.
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