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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've had thick white-ish discharge when I get wet for as long as I can remember. All my friends told me they got it too sometimes, but when my boyfriend found out, he stopped going down on me. I try to clean it off whenever I can find it, but it's no use because I get wet before my boyfriend even sees me down there and he's basically stopped looking altogether. I'm not proud of this, but I've had to fake orgasms regularly to make him feel better about himself. I know he doesn't like going down on me, so I don't make him do it. Basically, the only sure-fire way of getting me off is going down on me. Is there any way I can stop the secretions I have when wet? I really want to address him going down on me, but I don't want to be selfish, I want him to do it out of his own free will. I go down on him regularly and have good hygiene, in case you're wondering.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Hi,
from this male's perspective I can see nothing wrong.
My partner gets very wet and has a milky discharge, and I love it!
But don't fake it .
good luck.
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female
reader, lildeesbg +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Here is an idea... why dont you and your guy go to the gynocologist together and have your doctor explain to him the normalcy of your issue. (If you dont have a gyno you should get one regardless because its important for us women). Any way maybe a little education will allow him to feel better about going down on you in order for you to get off. Iam going to be very honest with you, sex a good sex/oral sex/ INTIMACY in general is important in a relationship. If you continue faking orgasms and cant tell your guy to give you oral sex (cause its a sure fire way to orgasm)..then your cheating yourself, him and overall your relationship. You will NEVER get off the way you want. Is that fair to you? I understand his cause for concern but if you 2 are sometimes having unprotected sex why doesnt he feel uneasy about intercourse? Just be fair to yourself! you need to communicate to him whats going on, and if you decide to try my idea he should be supportive and wanting to go! If hes not, then thats another issue all in itself.~dee
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reader, LUV-LY +, writes (3 June 2008):
 hey girl,
dont feel alone, whether women will like to admit it alot of women have some kind of discharge. Your bf should be mature enough to know that women have discharge, but you shoudl get checked out just in case. wmen know there own body better then anyone else does so if you know its normal and its not any outrageous color/ or it doesnt smell then your okay
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Hi Hun,
You are sabotaging your own ship when you do things for his own benefit that he won't do for you. Firstly, stop faking orgasms. That is a good way to a stunted sex life. Communication suffers and the relationship does too. If you simply produce copious amounts of fluid - that should be a compliment to him about how much you desire him.
See a Gynecologist.
If you have a yeast infection, then you should be aware of it and clear it up before he goes down on you.
The Candida bacteria that are present in a yeast infection can also cause "Thrush" in the mouth and it can be a very uncomfortable and painful infection. It's not pleasant and you need to be aware of transmitting it to your partner.
It's up to you to control your health and moniter this infection and when you have it. If you have had it once, you are probably prone to getting it and will have to watch out for it.
A good lover shouldn't be a selfish lover. Whether or not this is a yeast infection, your partner needs to be able to trust that you are in control of your health and that you are not infecting him, and he will have to get past all this and get back to the business of pleasuring you as well as himself.
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