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writes:Ok...so I recently started giving my bf oral, but last night he wanted to try 69 and he has never tried this position before, but I have. Anyhow he has only recieved oral and never given it. I don't want to sound mean or ungrateful, but he wasn't any good :( which was just kind of awkward because he really enjoyed it and I just didn't get any pleasure from it...I tried to show him where I feel most pleasure, but he never quite could get the spot.So he said that this was something he liked and wanted to try it again next time...should I explain that it wasn't that great with him or hope that maybe it will be better next time...or what? Reply to this Question
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reader, superhoopschick  +, writes (25 December 2007):
 well, u can tell him the exact spot or show him where, then it mite be better. like if he rubs u the wrong way, grabs his arm and say do it like this babe or i like it if u rub me this way, or ooo that feels much better. he wont mind if u correct him. if u dnt like something after u try that, then just tell him no offense, u just dont enjoy it as much. Sex is different with everyone..some people are better at certain things that others, but atleast he tried u know. But just talk and everything will be good...
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reader, leonard j, Douglas  +, writes (25 December 2007):
You both would do well to study some sex manuals,as it is the best way to learn how each of you would like to be sexually pleasured. And YES,If you do oral so should he, that's what loving someone is all about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): Giving oral sex to please a woman is an art - it's called cunnilingus - and an art that can only be mastered with experience over time. Books have been written about it, but essentially, it should start out with teasing the inner thighs with the tip of the tongue. The man should tease this way, often repeatedly from the backs of the knees up toward the woman's groin area without touching it at first. This normally causes intense anticipation, then eventually, he should gradually move toward the girl's privates, but first gently tickling the space between the inner thigh and her vulva - the crease where the legs join the body - with his tongue. This is a most tender and sensitive area and very arousing for most ladies. In the most usual position, the woman is prone on her back with her legs slightly spread and his head working toward her prize. The first licks of the labia (the outer lips of the vagina) should be very gentle beginning from the bottom to the top, just barely brushing the lips with the tip of his tongue.After a few strokes like this, he should go back to that tender area at the top of the inner thighs with further teasing. The anticipation should intensify.Eventually, he should direct the licking strokes a bit deeper between the vaginal lips, from bottom to top, but careful not to directly contact the clitoris, which is located at the top. This is too sensitive to mess with until a climax is near.The whole process is something that should take at least fifteen or twenty minutes or more, not just a few. It takes a lot of patience. Only gradually, the legs should be spread further to allow deeper penetration with the strokes of the tongue. Occasionally, a plunge of the tongue into the vaginal opening is in order - shallow at first and deeper at times - eventually as deep as possible. Legs could be spread as widest at this point, allowing the deeper penetration, and the man may use his fingers on one hand (left for me) to further open the lips. The licking strokes should intensify, occasionally flicking bottom to top, maybe flicking across the clitoris.As the woman gets closer to orgasm, inserting a finger or thumb into the vagina while beginning to lick the clitoris increases the intensity for her.Teasing with very gentle flicks of the tongue on her clitoris is advised, Gradually, it's hard to describe, but with tongue extended, press it firmly on her clitoris, first just holding against her a few seconds several times then backing away. Very gentle but firm strokes of the tongue on her clitoris can begin, continuing to penetrate the vagina with thumb or fingers simulating intercourse.There are a lot of motions of the tongue that, at this point, can be used on her to help bring her to the most intense climax of her life to date. It comes from experience, but this description might help your boyfriend get on the right track. Best wishes . . . DoubleM
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