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writes:Me and my ex broke up back in August. However we remained friends. About 2 months later I brought up the idea of hangin out 'just as friends' and she said we could. Well one morning she texts me and says that she didn't want to hang out. Well one hurtful thing leads to another and we both end up sayin things that we didn't mean. Well a few days ago she sends me a friend request on facebook. (I deleted her over a month ago) can this mean she is still interested in me even though she does have a bf or was she just curious to see if I had gotten over her and was in a relationship? PS: we still havn't spoken since she sent the request. Could she be waitin on me to talk to her first?
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reader, manaja  +, writes (12 November 2009):
Id accept the request then ignore her, my ex wife cheated on me after 10 years of marriage, she got married and divorced, wanted me back, so we did for a very short while, she did it again ...a year later she sent me a request, I accepted, she lwft a couple of comments like happy birthday , but I never got back to her, then she removed me, im ok totally with it, if I see her I speak, but accept the request, show no hard feelings, then just dont bother talking to her, she obviously still cares for you , but not the way you want her too.
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reader, grubbyduckling  +, writes (12 November 2009):
It's hard to interpret something like a Facebook friend request. You don't know what her intention was, and guessing isn't helping.
I'm not sure exactly what you want out of the situation between you and her. Do you know what you want? In my opinion, if she has a boyfriend then you need to work on closure to this situation - for yourself.
Instead of accepting the friend request, send her a message with a simple, "hey how are you doing, hope you're well, want to talk sometime." That way you might not have to guess at it as much...If she doesn't respond in kind, well, hey: no regrets. It's only pride, right? Hope this helps.
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reader, Waderex +, writes (12 November 2009):
Accept the request.
Don't rush it and accept her as a friend for now. LISTEN to what she has to say. She may be looking for someone she can trust and then again she may be looking to get back together with you. Men can never tell what is on a woman's mind. DO NOT TRY!!!
Take it one day at a time. If you want to get back together with her, do not be afraid to say "I Miss you"
If she is receptive, she will probably give you hints in that direction. Follow up with small gifts (if you want to accept her implied offer). Just play it by ear and remember Pope John Paul II's advice "BE NOT AFRAID" State your intentions boldly and stand by your convictions. She will accept the counter offer or not. Accept her decision.
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