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writes:Hey people I have yet another question that I have no idea how to answer myself. I apologize for any typo's in this question but i just got a new netbook from school and the keybord takes some getting used to. I am 15 and Marry (not real name) is 14 and was my girlfriend up until almost 3 weeks ago. We had been dating for about a year and more than a half on and off. We loved each other every second even when we did break up and we both knew it. The main problem that stands in our way is that we almost never see each other because I tried running away with her last summer and my parents blame her for it so they said they would never let me see her until I turn 18. Well of course that didn't happen and we got back togather about a month later. Anyway her birthday was October 2nd and mine was October 5th. I promiced her that we would talk on my birthday since we wouldnt be able to on hers. I got grounded on the 3rd so I wasnt able to call her. My birthday was on a monday. That thursday after a full week of marry constantly trying to call me she sent me a message on myspace ending it because she didnt like not being able to see each other and also because I hadnt answered. She didnt know that I was grounded. I was ungrounded the following wednesday and recieved the message. I couldnt get any sleep that night because I couldnt stop thinking about her. The following day we talked on myspace and she told me that she missed me every day and thought that she made a huge mistake. I didnt want to just use this as an excuse to get her back. I told her that what happens next is entirely up to her. She never replied to that message. Two days later she called me and we had a normal convorsation that friends would with nothing mentioned about the breakup or anything. It was extremely weird because thats not like her at all. I guess after the call I assumed that we where finnaly over and that I should accept it. I felt okay for about a week until last thursday when i realized that it didnt feel to me as though we had broken up at all. Im not used to being single and I am not used to being without her. Now I dont know what to do. I have this problem where if I have something on my mind that I need to figure out how to deal with it I cant sleep at all. I am currently going through my 7th night without sleep. I just want this to end. I want her more than anything in the world but I know that she does have a reputation (slutish and smokes) but ive always managed to see past that to the sweet, funny, and beautiful girl that I am in love with. I dont want to leave her but I dont see us being able to get back togather because it will more than likely end for the same reason it has ended over and over- we cant see each other more than once a month. Even dating her means that I have to live without her for most of the time. This website is the only place I have to turn to because most of my friends think she's a slut and that I could do much better. I know about her past but shes not like that around me because we have a much deeper connection than her past relationships. I dont want to let her go but given the sircumstances... it might be the only option I have.Thnx.~SFL
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reader, Six_Floors_Left +, writes (25 October 2009):
Six_Floors_Left is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks Shadow. Your reply plus the dream I had last night helped clear my mind a lot. I actually think now that this girl isn't as good as I thought she was last night. I won't get into details about the dream because that would take forever but I now know that I could be doing a lot better so I am going to move on and find someone better. Thanks for your help
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reader, Pyroshadow +, writes (23 October 2009):
Hey SFL,When I was your age I had a very similar thing going on in my life. First off, Let me tell you something I have learned form experience. At your age you can not run away with someone. It's just insane. You want to be adult so be man, plan for when you are both in college things like that look at things long term rather then short.When I was your age I dated a girl for 2 years. And in middle/freshman year of high school, that is like being married! I mean it was one of the longest relationships most people have ever seen at that age.With that said, you are still very young. Don't let anyone tell you that you can not find true love at your age because you can. It's just outstandingly rare.This might seem like the worst idea to you but you have to trust me on it. I dont know how sexually active you are with her or how sexually active she has been. With that said, you should both try to date a few other people. You can agree that all you can do is kiss and nothing more. No touching or feeling or anything with another person. This will do a few things for you. One it will let you know if this girl really means that much to you or if you are just lonely. Two it will give you a chance to experience something different and if you do go back to her, you will have that with you. You will have a deeper appreciation for her. At your age, girls are not sluts. Well for the most part. You are making it seem like she is very sexually active and if she is that could show signs of some sort of abuse or self-esteem problems. So be on the look out for that. Hope this helps you gather some thoughts,~ Shadow
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