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writes:I'm really curious about a recurring dream that I have and I was wondering if there is anyone on this site who knows how to analyze dreams?It involves me and a friend from college (whom I'll call Fulano)This is a strange dream, I know.I keep dreaming that I'm a beautiful mermaid. I love being a mermaid and swimming around in the ocean, but then I'm sitting on a rock and singing something. Fulano appears in the dream as a human being boy. He walks out to the rock and scoops me up and I sing to him. He promises to use his magic to turn me into a human being girl(he calls himself, "El Mago" in real life). But then, some little human ho walks into his life on her legs, and he cruelly tosses me into the ocean. He and the human being walk away hand in hand and I'm sitting on my rock watching them. I tell him, you promised to turn me into a human, and he looks at me and says, "If only you were a REAL human, it would work, but you'll never be a real human being... you need to stay with your kind and I need to stay with my kind."I've read stories about sirens, and how they lured sailors to their death on the rocks... could this dream mean that I subconsciously want to destroy him or do something evil? Am I becoming bad? Or does this have some Freudian sexual meaning?Here's some background info (this happened in REAL LIFE :) ):I used to be really in love with one of my best friends from college (let's call him Fulano), and I don't think this dream means I'm still in love with him. I haven't forgotten him, but my love has FADED. I DON'T want him back, but I do want to share my life and I love latin culture. He's Mexican, and I'm a North American and Floridian. I always did feel attracted to latinos, and still do, and I identified with latin culture. I used to think he'd be a wonderful boyfriend for me, and I told him so, but every time he gets a girlfriend, it's always a girl from his own culture. He says he doesn't see me as anything more than a best friend. He's grabbed me and kissed me before, and he has told me he wishes I had had sex with him. I refused, telling him that I was not a free whore. I feel like a dirty slut because I kissed him and did some other stuff, and now he's found a girl he really loves and cherishes and I'm last week's garbage on the curb.I don't even think he's "the one" but it hurts because he ignores me and builds his world around this other girl. I am NOT racist, and I despise racism but it makes me feel jealous that all his girlfriends have been "his own kind." I still love latin culture, but everyone treats me like an outsider.Thanks if you can help!
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reader, Jason means Healer  +, writes (23 March 2009):
Well, you're iconifying the racial barrier through mythology.
He has intimated to you that the way to get with him is through an immediate sexual encounter.
But, you're way too smart a mermaid for that, so back to the sea of the multitudes for you!
It's fairly self-evident, with one little touch;
namely, that there is an arrogance on his side that it is you who needs to change and that because you are not an easy lay like him, that therefore you must be of inferior race and therefore unsuitable for him.
I'm not saying ought about Latino mating habits, it's doubtless HIM that's engineering this double-entondre.
In other words, his using his preference for his own nationalitys kind as a cover for attempting to blackmail you into having sex.
Well, screw him (not literally!)
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reader, AskEve +, writes (23 March 2009):
 The fact that you're singing in your dream means you're happy as singing represents happiness, harmony and joy in some situation or relationship. You are uplifting others with your positive attitude (in this case Fulano) and cheerful disposition. Singing is a way to celebrate, communicate and express your feelings. A mermaid signifies the female aspect of yourself that is mysterious and secretive. It may also show a fear of sex and suggests you may have doubts over your femininity.
Mermaid = North American, Floridian (You). Human = Latino (this other woman, same culture). The "little human hoe" you describe is the Latino woman he "cherishes" and to a point you're envious of that. You're sitting on that rock (no legs), unable to follow or change his mind and that's what's happened at college, nothing you could do or say would change how he feels about this woman.
You've had this dream because you're feeling quite down on yourself at the moment and feel a bit worthless as if you'll never get someone you really really want and this is coming out in your subconscious through the dream.
Think more positive thoughts. Instead of looking in the mirror and trying to change what you don't like, instead try to enhance what you DO like! Learn to love yourself more and be proud of who you are and this dream will disappear!
~Eve~
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