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writes:i have already had sex once and it was the biggest mistake of my life.i wanted to wait until i was married.could i still get a purity ring?a promise to myself that i will not have sex again until married? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): yes you can get a purity ring even though you have had sex...
its like being born a virgin again you just have to promise that you will NOT have sex again before marriage :D
hope this helps..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): if i were you id get a ring... like the guy before said not a purity ring but it can mean that promise to you and help you keep it
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Maybe buy yourself a ring and wear it for your own reasons. I think that if you want some sort of object to symbolize "a promise to myself that i will not have sex again until married", that's cool. That's fine. And it's your own business.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): note to self - always check sex of the sender otherwise you might get it wrong.
please feel free to swap male and female genders around as you need to in my earlier answer....
apologies, Star.x.
(goes off muttering "now need glasses as well"
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Some churches believe in a sort of "re-virginizing" ceremony where you are at least spiritually cleared of your past. However, you did have sex, and that is still something that should come up in conversation with future partners.
Plenty of people do a turn around in life and want to "repent" for past mistakes. The choice is yours, but there should be no shame in saying "Well, I did have sex, and I feel that it was morally wrong of me, and now I am waiting for marriage".
Just don't lie, be confident in who you are. You past makes up your present.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): why do you need a ring to show you are pure? (Sorry i am not a believer that you need to display such things, either you are pure or you aren't and it is your heart that decides a ring to say you are is mad. What next badges to show your sexual achievements. ok thats my personal rant out of the way, on to the helpful bit.)
the great wiki says No. keyword is virginity. Sorry you lost yours. There is hope maybe something in google behind "second chance virginity" go look it up it may explain it better than my non ethical thoughts ever could.
ok So you aren't pure snow white pure - I don't know the rules for the club, but it sounds sensible to me if you say i am going to abstain from sex until I meet the one from now. Then yes, i would say you could wear a ring (if it were my club). I am sure that like minded females would probably understand that. i think you explain that you are sort of beige rather than snow white to them first. They might be a bit miffed if you have the ring and you aren't actually biologically pure.
I would also go for an STD check - just in case would be really sad to meet girl of dreams who has been saving her self and then find she gets clap from you as a dormant carrier. (she might be a bit miffed as we say here)...
I am not an expert - but really the choice is yours - you don't need a symbol to be pure inside in my view.
Hugs Star.x.
(goes off muttering kids today...)
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (2 March 2009):
A purity ring is saying that you want to be pure (i.e, no sex) until you're married. You might find that you have pressure to wear one thru your church, and you don't want to let people know of your mistake. Let me tell you, other people wear these rings who have had sex before because of this same pressure to fit into the church. For me, I'd feel like a BIG hypocrite, but a lot of people in churches are, indeed, hypocrites, including some pastors. So don't "follow" people with closed eyes, ears, and brain. I'm glad you learned from your mistake... we all make them. Make better choices next time.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (2 March 2009):
 You can do what ever you want to do.
Although by wearing the ring everyone will assume you are a virgin, and it'll take some explaining or lying when you meet the guy you want to marry.
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