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writes:Dear Cupid, I've been in love with my bestfriend for about 5 months. I am 18 years old and my bestfriend is 17 but is very mature for his age. He has no idea how i feel about him. He claims he is gay and is only attracted to men but sometimes he makes me wonder. We have been hanging out everyday for the past 3 months and lately my feelings have been growing more for him. He has never had sex with a girl and has only felt a girl up once which happened to be me. After it happened he told me, "this is how i know im gay because im not turned on by your boobs." Ive been told many times by straight men i have perfect boobies lol. But even straight men who have felt me up dont get turned on instantly unless it lend to something deeper. We have never had sex but madeout once and when we madeout that one time he stopped it because he said he was getting way to into it. I've been curious to know what " getting way to into it " ment but was to afraid to ask him because i felt like it would of leaded to a conversation that would end our friendship that i value with my life. Every night i stay with him i find myself crawling in his bed to cuddle or he crawls on the couch to cuddle with me and we fall asleep like that.sometimes we even hold hands during our cuddling. I usually kiss the back of his shoulders and i know he knows im doing it but nothing is ever said or done. We tell eachother we love eachother and hope to stay in eachothers lifes forever. Sometimes we joke around and act like were dating by calling eachother baby or babe and saying things like i love you in a romantic ways. One time he admitted to me that he wished he wasnt gay. I know he thinks about me throughout his day because he sometimes post messages on his facebook about me and makes it known that he loves me. Im not to sure on what kind of love he is talking about. For sure bestfriend love but maybe more than that? Could he possibly be bi and hasnt discovered it?
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reader, INCREDIBLEME01 +, writes (6 December 2010):
 I know of NO straight men that would say they were gay when in fact they were not. he may be bi curious, for a woman that is. He may not see you as a sexual being, in that because you are a good friend he doesn't think of you in a sexual way. Maybe if some random girl came around that wasn't such a good friend, he might fulfill his bi cuiosity if it even exists. Everyone wants and needs affection to some degree at some point,you might just happen to be the one proving that for him at this time of convience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah you guys are right, no i do not want to ruin the friendship i was just curious if it was a normal thing for gay men to do without asking him personally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): i only have one question to ask you do you want to ruin your friendship??? if he says he is gay he is gay you should never doubt something like that. i have a gay friend and he always cuddles and kisses me on the cheek and never once have i doubted if he is gay or not don't ruin your friendship
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 "After it happened he told me, "this is how i know im gay because im not turned on by your boobs."
"One time he admitted to me that he wished he wasnt gay."
Sorry, but that's a pretty clear sign that he's not bi.
Plus you guys often cuddle or spend the night in bed together and he's never tried anything...?
Strike 3, He's out.
I know a gay guy who makes out and dances with one girl regularly. He's still gay, he just likes dancing and making out.
Sorry for being blunt, just don't want you to get your hopes up only to have them crushed later on. Anythings possible of course, but the signs aren't in your favor I'm afraid :(
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