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writes:okay, so this is quite common on this site i hink.. I've seen similar questions around..but anyways, I'm a 16 yr old high school student, and I'm just about to finish my final year next year. there's this teacher who comes in occasionally as a sub and I've developed a MASSIVE crush on him. I've had tones of crushes and I've been properly in love once before, so i know what it feels like, and I know I'm young, but I'm quite mature. I grew up having tonnes of adult friends as I'm an only child, and I find j can relate to adults so much better. all the relationships I've had with guys my age have turned out real bad, and this teacher is so perfect. he's INSANELY intelligent, witty, kind, compassionate and we gt along really well. just recently I found out he goes to church just down the road from where I live, and I've stumbled across him a few times, and we've locked eyes and he's looked at me really intensely.. it's hard to describe, but there's a definite feeling of affinity there.. I find myself constantly thinking about him, but I just feel so helpless abou it all. I think he has a gf, but that was only a rumpus, when I last talked to him he said he didn't have one. he's approx. 17-18 years older than me, but I seriously don't care. can anyone help?! I don't know how to approach him, or at least act normal arroyos him so Ho doesn suspect anything.. I just find myself fantasizing about him all the time and can't stop thinking about how good a relationship we'd have... please help!!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 You've seen similar questions but have you read this article? Read it very carefully..
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/crushes-on-teachers.html
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 As I'm sure you know, crushes on teachers are perfectly normal and there is nothing wrong with it as long as you leave it as JUST a crush. I'm sure you are well aware that if you tried anything with him he would lose his job, have a criminal record and quite possibly go to jail - not to mention losing his friends, family, probably house & car because he would not be able to get a job ever again......I think you know yourself that a relationship with him is not possible and would only ever cause a lot of pain if you tried anything on with him.
Now seen as you have been in love before, you must know that eventually those feelings do pass and you can get over it - therefore same applies with your teacher. There is no harm in admiring him from afar and appreciating him for what he is, and just keep reminding yourself that your feelings will eventually fade.
There is not a lot else we can say to help I'm afraid, just make sure you NEVER try and act on your feelings otherwise you could potentially make a lot of trouble for your teacher and I'm sure if you care about him you wont want to hurt him. Just sit this crush out, try not to go out of your way to see him as the more you are away from him the more your feelings will fade. These feelings will pass in time, I promise.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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