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writes:My Girlfriend used to go out with a guy years ago, (for the sake of this lets call him Sam) but then he cheated on her with her best friend. She was obviously very upset and didn't talk to him for a while. But because they where in the same circle of people she eventually began talking to him again because it was "easier". More recently she was seeing a guy who was naglective to her by not talking or seeing her for long periods of time and she used sam to get back at him. She never slept with sam but they did other sexual things and eventually she stopped this and started seeing me. During our relationship Sam has txt her saying he wanted to sleep with her and also talked to her with drink on him and said he was still crazy about her. Now she is txting him way more frequently. she is not txting him on a regular basis but every now and then she might txt him saying oh i seen this, you think its funny or something along those lines. I know its only a matter of time before he says something like I miss you to her or i want it see you again, because im sure he's getting mixed messages from these txts he's started getting again. I don't want to be the boyfriend to say i don't want you talking to people, because i couldn't care less if she still talked to other ex boyfriends. but this one guy i don't want anywhere near her. its really annoying me....what should I do???
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reader, lilly88 +, writes (25 January 2011):
Well all I can say is this... your gf should question her self as to why she is still texting sam? Does she really need him to talk to? Does she still have feelings for him? and why does she still have his number in her phone? Im having a similar problem with my bf. Iv just realised after being with him for 4yrs that he still talks to one of his ex's. and i really dont like it. and the thing that hurts me deep inside is that he lies about it.hes also a secretive person. one example i wont go into too much detail i saw my bf picking up a girl from her house opposite my house! i called him and asked whats going on he wouldnt answer at first and explained it was an old friend of his.hes known her longer than me.but it didnt end their!... the main point is that trust is important. My trust for my bf broke that day so now when ever that phone rings or he starts texting it makes me wonder...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): You don't. have to tell her not to text the dude or see him, just let her throw you don't like the fact they are really close and advice her to be careful, it only advice.
i used to text my ex dot not just because I missed him but because sometimes my boyfriend would just ignore me or just be blank, Until one day I was at my bf's place and a text came in from my ex asking me to call him at night and my bf received it, he was a bit upset about the fact we were Still Close but we talked about it and now i hardy ever talk with my ex intact couldn't care less cause its obvious if we keep talking about Someday we would both end up doing things we may regret or would complicate things. So try to pay more attention to her and tell her how you feel about the situation
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reader, DEDEE +, writes (6 December 2010):
Stop right there this is your girlfriend who txts her ex where do you feelings come into this if my bf was texing his ex with comments like that i would get him told she is ment to be faithful tell her how you feel if she dose not listen or understand she is not worth it
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