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writes:Okay, so there is this guy...I've known him for a long time, we just recently started hanging out more though.I have hung out with him a couple of times in the past couple weeks,i really like him. hes really sweet, and he seems like the kind of guy that won't end up being a player. the second time we hung out we kind of hooked up,just like making out, and that kinda stuff.he told me he really liked me, and he hopes we date in the future.but im kinda worried all he wants is sex.i want to, but i kind of want to wait.i think hes kind of mad that i wont have sex with him.he says he thinks that i dont like hanging out with him, because everytime he asks if ill have sex with him i say no.is this bad, how do i know that all he wants isnt just sex?
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reader, sucker4luv +, writes (4 August 2008):
sweetheart...he just wants sex! If he wanted to be with you, he would go for the relationship FIRST, then sex. They dont get any better as they get older either, so take this piece of advice. You have a special gift, give it to those who will cherish it!!!
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reader, cloudnine-andbeyond  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 i had a similar but not as persisting problem with a guy a while back. if he does not respect you for who you are and what you believe in then he is probably isnt good for you. if you ended up having sex with him just to keep him happy, he would want it again and again because he got it in the end the first time. dont give in, keep your veiws and standards as they are. good luck!!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 AGE YOU HAVE SUGGESTS HE MAY ONLY WANT SEX THOUGH SOME RELATIONSHIPS START AS ONLY SEX AND THEN MOVE ON AND SO ONI WOULD TRY TO DATE OTHER BOYS JUST TO COMPARE AND NOT TO COMMIT TO ANY OF THEM JUST TO KINDA HAVE FUN WITHOUT PROPER SEX JUST GETTING OFF A BIT IF YOU LIKE ONE OF THEM SO MUCHI'M SPANISH AND SOME PEOPLE THINK, SO CONSERVATIVE BUT DARLING IT WORKS TO FIND OUT WHO IS ONLY AFTER SEXHOWEVER YOU'RE VERY YOUNG TO HAVE SEX JUST TAKE CARE IF YOU FEEL LIKE TRYING, YOU KNOW PROTECION, ETC[Moderator's note: Please don't write in CAPS letters]
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (2 August 2008):
 He's asking sex at such early stage of your relationship? Tsk tsk tsk.
This guy sounds like he just wants you for sex. I mean, you really haven't even been dating, but he wants to have sex with you? And he gets upset when you say no and puts blame on you by telling you don't sound interested? Doesn't this sound fishy to you?
Read this:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html
It sounds this guy is following this path with you. I really think the best thing you could do is to just not seek a relationship with him more than frienship and leave it like that. Yes, sure, you like him, but it really doesn't sound he likes you back. Are you willing to stay with an over-sexed jerk just because you like him?
Just don't get your hopes up with this guy. So early in the relationship and he's treating you like a jerk, so how do you think it will happen when you're with him longer? If you actually last since he may just get bored of you?
Please do a wise decision, but I give you good luck that in anything you do will be the best for you.
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